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Posted: Mon Sep 01, 2008 1:02 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 8:37 am
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Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 11:04 am
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Posted: Wed Sep 03, 2008 4:18 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 03, 2008 8:00 pm
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Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2008 11:46 am
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Posted: Mon Sep 15, 2008 1:50 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 6:05 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 8:29 pm
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True love ~ definitely more than a physical attraction, which does eventually go away, as in, "Ewwww, don't touch me, you make my skin crawl." This usually comes after you lost respect for the person you once loved.
Having realized that none of my "loves" really loved me, the person, I fall back on an old Twisted Sister song: "Love Is For Suckers." And thus, am very happily UN-married.
On the other hand, my grandparents were married for over 60 years, until death did them part ~ and my grandma still misses my grandpa everyday. So maybe it's a matter of luck and hard work.
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Posted: Fri Sep 19, 2008 7:50 am
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Posted: Sat Sep 20, 2008 8:31 pm
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Posted: Sun Sep 21, 2008 9:51 pm
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I think it is self-obvious that people can love more than one person. You don't stop loving one child when another is born. People who get divorced don't live in a loveless limbo. Most of us date multiple people and fall in love a few times before we settle down with one person. We are social creatures and one of our hardwired responses to emotional closeness is to love.
I too have seen a three way relationship work. Everyone was best friends with everyone else and everything was honest and even. That, I think, was the key to that relationship honesty and fairness. Sometimes one partner would want to spend time exclusivly with one other. For a short period of time, this might be fine, but over a long period of time, it could easily lead to hurt feelings as one partner feels left out, or worse, pittied or tolerated. No one likes to be pushed to the side and only be remembered as a "Oh, we really should spend time with...", have their hopes raised that they were once again a valued part of a relationship, then get dumped back to the sidelines more hurt than before. So this threesome would plan out "dates" so all partners "dated" the other partners and they spent A LOT of time in what they called "family meetings" where everyone got a chance to talk and be included in important decisions about their relationship, and since they were all living together, they all made decisions together about the mundane details of their lives. I didn't get much detail about that part but I heard them talk about it often enough that I now use it in my family with great results.
A threesome (or moresome) takes a lot of work to do. If you think a relationship with one person is hard multiply it for each person you add. It takes a boat load of communication, being honest with yourself and everyone else in the relationship, and often willingness to sacrifice your own personal interests for the good of everyone in the relationship.
If you are thinking of lying, forget it. You might get away with it for awhile, but then you will get caught and the emotional fall out on the people you "love" is going to be terrible. If you are lying to one or both, you don't love them. You're using them. One or both might stay quiet, hoping you will eventually change, but the psychological damage you will do to them will be tremendous. If this is the case, cut them both loose and go find a relationship with another "player" who is fine with someone who's never going to be faithful, truthful, or anything else except a performer in bed.
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