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Posted: Sun Aug 31, 2008 1:52 am
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Posted: Sun Aug 31, 2008 2:13 am
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Posted: Sun Aug 31, 2008 2:17 am
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Posted: Sun Aug 31, 2008 7:08 am
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Advice forum does seem a little more appropriate in my opinion.
Addressing the issue, I would say it isn't much to worry about yet if it was an isolated incident. I do not personally know your friend, but in a situation like that, sometimes people will shrug and laugh out of awkwardness, uncertain how to react appropriately as to not offend either person involved.
For situations like this in general {in which a friend will act differently when their mate is present}, if the way they are acting makes you feel uncomfortable, offended, or hurt, then I would say you need to talk to that friend and address the issue. Some people will act differently around their mate without even realizing it and need to have it pointed out to them before they can fix it.
Conversely, there are also times in which people act more natural around their partner than they do with their friends, depending on who they feel more comfortable with. It is pretty commonplace for a person to, either consciously or subconsciously, alter their mannerisms or personality to better relate to those with whom they are associated.
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Posted: Sun Aug 31, 2008 8:05 am
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Posted: Sun Aug 31, 2008 8:58 pm
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Posted: Mon Sep 01, 2008 4:44 pm
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It's an unfortunate truth that even the most level-headed, supportive, close friend can turn stupid when it comes to relationships. In the honeymoon phase, people are basically looking through rose-colored glasses at everything their partners do. I know that no friend of mine has ever wanted to hear me say anything bad about her new boyfriend (even if it turns out to be entirely justified and true). It can be really difficult when you see a friend with someone who is obviously a jerk. I feel for you.
I've always had friends turn immediately defensive about their significant others. I find that the best thing is to be polite and well mannered, even if the boyfriend (or your friend) isn't. Be supportive and let her know that you're there for her, no matter what, even if you don't get along one hundred percent with her chosen beau. You don't have to force yourself to spend a lot of time around her boyfriend, but stay in touch with her and behave yourself when you feel it is necessary to put in an appearance. She doesn't need to have you turn on her, especially if her boyfriend doesn't turn out to be the Mr. Wonderful she thinks he is right now.
Bad relationships will always fall apart, so unless there is a danger from abuse, you can only wait for the hormones to wear off and your friend to come to her senses. If you don't think it's worth the effort, so be it, but if she's a friend you want to keep, go for patience.
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Posted: Mon Sep 01, 2008 6:04 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 3:29 am
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Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 3:42 am
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Posted: Wed Sep 03, 2008 11:10 am
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indyana It's an unfortunate truth that even the most level-headed, supportive, close friend can turn stupid when it comes to relationships. In the honeymoon phase, people are basically looking through rose-colored glasses at everything their partners do. I know that no friend of mine has ever wanted to hear me say anything bad about her new boyfriend (even if it turns out to be entirely justified and true). It can be really difficult when you see a friend with someone who is obviously a jerk. I feel for you. I've always had friends turn immediately defensive about their significant others. I find that the best thing is to be polite and well mannered, even if the boyfriend (or your friend) isn't. Be supportive and let her know that you're there for her, no matter what, even if you don't get along one hundred percent with her chosen beau. You don't have to force yourself to spend a lot of time around her boyfriend, but stay in touch with her and behave yourself when you feel it is necessary to put in an appearance. She doesn't need to have you turn on her, especially if her boyfriend doesn't turn out to be the Mr. Wonderful she thinks he is right now. Bad relationships will always fall apart, so unless there is a danger from abuse, you can only wait for the hormones to wear off and your friend to come to her senses. If you don't think it's worth the effort, so be it, but if she's a friend you want to keep, go for patience.
What she said. Can't really add more than that xp
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Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2008 8:56 am
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Posted: Sat Sep 13, 2008 4:40 am
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Posted: Mon Sep 15, 2008 12:05 am
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Posted: Thu Sep 18, 2008 10:48 am
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