Home Sick ALREADY!

[.x.mudpuppy.x.]

I am 24 and just left home for the first time really attending a college away from there. I am home sick already and only got here yesterday!!! How pathetic is that! Though it doesn't help that I don't feel well my stomach didn't like supper.  

[Vaihingen]

I am so there with you. It felt like the secound I turned eighteen they plopped me into uni and went to another country! Three years later and I still get homesick, but what I've found helps are:
bi or daily emails, same goews for phonecalls. It's not wussy- for your own sanity, it's smart, right?

Getting out there and getting distracted! Social stuff, academic clubs, even *gulp* volunteering. Of course this isn't so feasible when yer sick *hugs as well* Food poisoning is over within two days, but since this sounds tamer I'd give it maybe a day. You pop those painkillers, girl! heart  

[.x.mudpuppy.x.]

Thanks guys I am sitting her balling atm I am thinking of trying to call my parents when I stop cry to see how they are. I definately need to get out and about I dont think being in all day today has helped at all.  

[indyana]

Yeah, definitely make yourself go out and about. Get some daylight and people around you! Also, writing emails to your family, calling them each day to talk about things, and talking to friends back home can help. Just concentrating on having fun learning and interacting in classes can really take your mind off things as well, not to mention that being involved in class can help you get to know your classmates and make a few friends to go out and do things with.

Hang in there! I remember being homesick my first few years away from home, but I found people to hang out with and made sure to do things around campus to keep myself from sitting around and moping too much.  

[President Kristian Fry]

Its normal. I was the same way when I moved out for my first time. But it will pass in time.  

[Fairy Enna]

I'm sorry you're having ahard time! My oldest just left for her second year of college and she called me after her first day of classes all angsty about things.

I just said to her over and over -- It was your first day - it'll all work out!

I get homesick for her from here at home, too. It's normal - it's sucky - it's OK and you'll be fine soon and not missing home at all!  

[jcap]

Stick it through. This is a big part of making up the excellent stuff that will mature into you, and who you are.

I spent 1 year at a US college campus, and then went overseas for another year. Yes, when things get difficult, homesickness comes into play (especially in winter because you are locked away in your room!) but these are the defining moments.

How do you want to remember your early days, or what will you tell your grandchildren about how you "faced" these moments?  

[TequilaRose]

it's good for you. just don't get stuck in a state you don't plan on staying in just because of jobs. I got married and I moved to Michigan only planning on being here a few years and now I am pregnant and far away from all my family back in Washington. It's not that bad though. Thats what they made transportation for. lol just make sure you go back and visit every year and talk on the phone a lot.  

[Sho Yuuki]

I remember the first time I left home ... (back when they had stone wheels biggrin ) .... I joined the Army and went away for 4 years ... no home, no mom ... I went overseas to Germany for 4 years and at first it was hard but, that changed quick .... I was 19 years old and no drinking age over there!! Talk about parties!! I loved every minute of it. I gave Uncle Sam another 4 years after that 1st tour and then got out after 8 years ... 6 of which were spent in Europe!! I've seen things and done things that most people could only dream of!!

Give it time ... you'll love it too!! razz  

[Dani Hyrosha]

Gee...this sounds farmilliar. Oh right, that was me just over three years ago sweatdrop

You'll be okay. I still call my mom practially every day. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

The gang here is right, find something to do. I found a group of geeks like me (video games in the dorms brings all geeks together) and we'd hang out. I didn't feel as homesick between school, work and my friends. The first one I met was the one that brought us together...and I married him eight months later 3nodding

Of course I was lucky and I still get homesick sometimes. Welcome to being an adult.  

[sunsetsmile]

You know, your family feels the same way. Call and say hello, and make everyone's day! It's okay to call and/or write, they don't want you to feel like you've been dropped off the edge of the world. Even though we're all grown up now, we still call and text and email almost every day. Just don't think that going home is a good option, just because you're homesick. Get out and meet some people, do some things, see what your new town has to offer. It's an adventure! 3nodding whee  

[bandaidd]

If you are crying, it's probably not the best time to call.
But do send emails and let your family/friends know that you are realizing how much they mean to you.
If you are too sick to your stomach to eat, please at least drink a little... and try to keep the same sleep hours and even routines you had at home.
Talking it out online with us strangers is a great way to spill your guts too, so can pretend to be brave around your roomies and on the phone. You might even consider documenting your feelings on a blog or in a journal so you can share later with kids in the same situation or even look back and see how far you've grown.  

[Tanuki Rei]

You're not pathetic, and you sound just like me. I moved to the other side of my state (Michigan) to go to college when I was 22, and it was the first time I planned to live so far from home. Best thing I found - distraction. Doesn't matter if it's on here, the TV. I particularily enjoy sitting around somewhere neutral in public, like in a coffee house. Doing stuff is the best way to moved past that initial feeling of loss. And on top of not being so homesick, you'll get to experience where you're at now, and maybe get to meet new people.  

[Lil Brat]

My oldest is going through this ~ at 19. It was her decision to go to a college away from home, and I supported her choice. But know that she misses us a lot. Gotta love the IM ~ we hear from her frequently.