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Lock the computer ... and doors and windows! |
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Find a good software program |
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Fugetaboutit -- nuttin' you can do |
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Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 11:43 am
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Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 12:08 pm
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1. Move the computer to a public room rather than a bedroom. Situate it so that the screen faces doors, windows, and/or anyone walking into or through the room, so that there is no privacy.
2. Lock the computer with a password. Don't make it a password that your son can easily guess, like anyone's birthday, social security number, nickname, pets, kids, or anything like that. Also, don't make it your favorite character from a TV series or movie, because kids can guess that, too. (Mom, seriously, law&order is not a great password!)
3. Use kid-blocking software.
4. Any time the boy gets past these obstacles, remove other privileges. Computer use, cellphone/texting use, TV watching, social activities outside the house.
5. Have a VERY long talk about why he's visiting those sites, and then about why you don't want him visiting those sites.
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Eloquent Conversationalist
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Posted: Wed Sep 03, 2008 1:44 am
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Posted: Sat Sep 06, 2008 3:07 pm
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I'm going to say something VERY unpopular (and cynical), but being a teacher I have unfortunatly found this to be true. It's also the reason I no longer ask for any essays that might even remotely touch on my student's lives. I got so tired of 18 year olds tell me about their sex lives, multiple partners, and pregnancies that I stopped asking things like "write about the funniest moment in your life." The shock I got wasn't worth it.
Most kids have had sex by the time they turn 15, many by the time they are 13. Locking down the computer to deny them access to the explicit material is not going to do much when they can just shrug, go to their friend's house see the same thing, and then go have intercourse with their girlfriends. The only thing it will accomplish is to show them that you don't want to have anything to do with "that subject" so they might as well go find info someplace else.
If it makes you personally feel better to restrict your children from the material they find on the internet, acknowledge that you are doing it for yourself, not them. They already know what's out there. They probably learned of the sites from their friends. They're probably talking about it at school. They've probably experienced intercourse in real life.
It might be a better course of action to talk to them about birthcontrol, avoidance of STDs, and the importance of not sleeping around. It is far better for them to hear it from you than for them to learn the junk that is being circulated.
Here's a few that I've heard from my students in those essays I refuse to have anything to do with: Dr. Pepper is a great birthcontrol If a girl stands on her head after sex, she won't get pregnant If a girl douches with Pepsi, she won't get pregnant You can't get pregnant the first time you have sex Only homosexuals get AIDS If you have sex with more than one person at the same time, you won't get STDs
Your babies are no longer the sweet little cherubs they used to be. They are now stretching into being the men they will one day become. Take this as a wake up call. Start talking to them about sex. It's natural for them to be curious and if you start acting judgemental, they will take their curiosity and go explore on their own.
You may now all throw tomatoes...
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Posted: Sat Sep 06, 2008 3:22 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 06, 2008 6:52 pm
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Posted: Sun Sep 07, 2008 3:14 am
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Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 5:28 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2008 8:30 pm
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Posted: Thu Sep 18, 2008 8:05 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 3:39 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 7:56 am
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