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Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 7:49 am
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Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 8:13 am
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Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 9:54 am
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Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 10:00 am
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Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 12:05 pm
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I dunno, this guy sounds kind of suspicious to me. I suppose you could say that since she's out of state, the communication is harmless... but we all know that some men have a hard time making up their minds. I don't know the conditions of your breakup or the reasons you got back together with him, but knowing what I do, he seems to me to be one of those men. After all, if their dating was so casual, why is she contacting him at 2 a.m.? If these communications are really so innocent, why the hell didn't he tell you about them? And lastly, if she really doesn't know that the two of you are together again, then it could be that he didn't tell her because he's still pining after her.
I'm sorry, I know I'm making it sound like doom and gloom, but a girl's gotta look out for herself. These are just some things to consider, and my advice to you is that you sit your beau down and have a serious chat with him.
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Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 12:20 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 3:34 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 7:18 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 8:32 pm
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Depends on the guy. Has all his other habits shown that he's honest? Does he give an honest, I'm-completely-open-to-communication vibe all the time?
I just might be in your boyfriend's shoes, and will probably be there for many years to come....
You see, my ex has become one of my best friends. And my boyfriend is completely aware of this. And to put the cherry on top, we're in a semi-long distance relationship (2 hours by Greyhound). That said, my communication method is very different from your boyfriend's. I tell my boyfriend everything that affects our relationship, including the time when my ex confessed that he was still in love with me a year after we broke up.
While you should be suspicious, there is the possibility that your boyfriend's communication method is different (and rather ineffective) in the way that he's trying to lessen your pain and fear that he's not being committed to you.
I'm not too sure about making demands at this point, but you should make it crystal clear that you are uncomfortable with the fact that he isn't telling you that he's contacting his ex. If he respects you, he will explain the situation (and you shouldn't interrupt him or jump to conclusions when he's explaining) and possibly try to find a compromise. He might come up with a solution himself and ask you for your approval or he might ask you to come up with one. The latter doesn't mean he's not taking initiative in the relationship, just that he might be stuck but still wants to be committed to you.
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Posted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 1:54 am
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Posted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 3:53 pm
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Posted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 5:34 pm
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Posted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 7:52 pm
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Posted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 9:19 pm
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Posted: Sat Oct 18, 2008 7:08 pm
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