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Posted: Sun Jul 05, 2009 9:34 pm
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Posted: Mon Jul 06, 2009 7:02 pm
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Posted: Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:40 am
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6-12 times was pretty normal when I was growing up. Perhaps he was brought up the same way and therefore thinks it's acceptable, however that doesn't mean that it is. My parents gave up spanking when they realized that it wasn't effective. Just like Shinigami Unity, it always made me more angry instead of deterring me from mischief. Actually, it would just encourage me to be more wise about it and try not to get caught next time instead of thinking, "wow, I shouldn't do that".
If you think the spanking is much, perhaps you should talk to him about what you would find an acceptable means of punishment instead of just letting him go off and decide things on his own. As I said, if he was brought up that way, that's probably what he thinks is the right thing to do because that's all he knows. Discussing and agreeing on a means of discipline is a pretty important part of parenting, especially if he is now expected to play a bigger role in raising your children since he is without a job. {I actually went over that already with my spouse before we were married and we don't even have children yet.}
Automatically thinking that he's just an abusive person and that you need to leave is jumping to conclusions, or at least it seems like a leap from the information given. I don't see anything in there that indicates that he will "escalate" things or that he "needs serious help".
Also, aside from the possible depression that Shinigami Unity mentioned in regards to him not helping with chores, there's also the possibility that he believes in the traditional family structure in which the wife takes care of the kids and does the cooking and cleaning. If you want help doing chores or taking care of the children, then you need to bring it up and not just assume that he should do it.
Guys often aren't much for conversation, but we will listen if it's regarding something important.
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Posted: Thu Jul 09, 2009 9:09 am
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