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Posted: Mon Aug 10, 2009 2:16 pm
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Posted: Mon Aug 10, 2009 7:01 pm
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Posted: Wed Aug 12, 2009 6:45 pm
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There are actually two answers (at least!!) to your question.
One- should you support him - financially? I agree it's a no. Besides the fact that you have to think of your children there is also the fact that you suspect him of being untruthful. Just the fact that you suspect that says a lot. Also, from personal experience, constantly helping someone through money doesn't do them any good. They never seem to catch up, or learn. Of course this isn't true in all cases, but if your friend is a adult who intends to be married and make his own choices he needs to grow up and take care of himself.
Two- should you support him - emotionally? That I think is a harder question. Obviously you _want_ to be a good friend and help as best you can, and hopefully he takes your advice, suggestions, etc. well. Things like helping him get in touch with support agencies and the like. And just listening to him and treating him like a human being. And if you are insisting that he act like a real adult you'll have to treat him as one, tell him of your concerns and let it go. Unfortunately that kind of effort can be very draining, especially if he doesn't take your refusal to help him financially well, or interprets your efforts as patronizing.
I wish you luck. I hope he really is getting better and that your friendship survives!
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