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Posted: Mon Dec 14, 2009 2:16 am
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Posted: Mon Dec 14, 2009 2:03 pm
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Posted: Mon Dec 14, 2009 2:06 pm
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Posted: Mon Dec 14, 2009 2:29 pm
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Posted: Mon Dec 14, 2009 2:45 pm
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 3:18 am
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:28 am
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:06 am
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Posted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:26 pm
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Posted: Thu Dec 31, 2009 12:28 am
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Posted: Sat Jan 02, 2010 6:59 pm
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Posted: Sun Jan 03, 2010 11:02 pm
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Posted: Sun Jan 03, 2010 11:53 pm
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I disagree that just because you are old enough to understand what sex is you're old enough to consent. Do you remember your first boyfriend? I do. I was even 15, old enough to "know better". We were so "In Love" it makes me sick to think back on it now. And we were both kids, just caught up in the idea. We didn't have sex because I at least knew better than that. But a lot of girls that are younger than that are very easily manipulated, it's sad to say. We're so wrapped up in this whole romantic notion of "falling in love" and finding our "soulmate". An older man who understands even a little bit of the female psyche could easily manipulate a younger girl into thinking that she is "so IN LOVE" with him that it doesn't matter. If she hasn't been properly educated about things, she might not really understand protection or the risks involved, and very likely has no one that she can comfortably ask. Chances are, the manipulator is also encouraging her to keep things a secret, because her parents are probably not going to be very happy about their daughter dating a 30 year old. When you have little to no experience, it is SO easy to get carried away. And yes, you can get carried away with someone your own age, but there is something a little more innocent to that. You're both getting carried away. The chances of a 30 year old getting "swept up in the moment" with a 13 year old? I'm not buying it.
Of course, it IS fully possible to fall in love with someone who has a significant age difference from you. One of my best friends just got married at the age of 20. Her husband is 30. They're perfect for each other. But there is a difference between a 20 year old dating a 30 year old, and a 13 year old dating a 23 year old. They are at different points in their lives.
Are there exceptions? Yes. But overall, I think that statutory rape laws are in place for a good reason and should remain so. Age of consent may be a random number and have nothing to do with whether someone is actually ready to make a decision, but having A boundary is good, in my opinion. Do the laws have flaws? Yes. Do I think an 18 year old boy should be arrested for having sex with his 17 year old girlfriend? Hell no. That's dumb. But you've got to draw a line somewhere.
As a note, I was manipulated when I was younger. Thankfully, I realized what was going on early enough to stop things before anything that I would have really regretted happened, but partially thanks to my friends. I don't know if I would have figured it out by myself until it was too late. It CAN happen to anyone. I am and was a very intelligent, very independent, and decently social girl. I wasn't "popular" in high school, but I had my group of friends and was far from the desperate outcast. I had no problem finding a date if I wanted one (which most of the time I didn't. I thought most of the guys at my high school were morons). I still found myself being manipulated by someone. Even though nothing really bad happened, it still haunts me. The prospect of seeing him again terrifies me. I literally have nightmares where I run into him somewhere and can't get away. This happened almost 7 years ago.
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Posted: Mon Jan 04, 2010 12:03 pm
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AriaStarSong I disagree that just because you are old enough to understand what sex is you're old enough to consent. Do you remember your first boyfriend? I do. I was even 15, old enough to "know better". We were so "In Love" it makes me sick to think back on it now. And we were both kids, just caught up in the idea. We didn't have sex because I at least knew better than that. But a lot of girls that are younger than that are very easily manipulated, it's sad to say. We're so wrapped up in this whole romantic notion of "falling in love" and finding our "soulmate". An older man who understands even a little bit of the female psyche could easily manipulate a younger girl into thinking that she is "so IN LOVE" with him that it doesn't matter. If she hasn't been properly educated about things, she might not really understand protection or the risks involved, and very likely has no one that she can comfortably ask. Chances are, the manipulator is also encouraging her to keep things a secret, because her parents are probably not going to be very happy about their daughter dating a 30 year old. When you have little to no experience, it is SO easy to get carried away. And yes, you can get carried away with someone your own age, but there is something a little more innocent to that. You're both getting carried away. The chances of a 30 year old getting "swept up in the moment" with a 13 year old? I'm not buying it. Of course, it IS fully possible to fall in love with someone who has a significant age difference from you. One of my best friends just got married at the age of 20. Her husband is 30. They're perfect for each other. But there is a difference between a 20 year old dating a 30 year old, and a 13 year old dating a 23 year old. They are at different points in their lives. Are there exceptions? Yes. But overall, I think that statutory rape laws are in place for a good reason and should remain so. Age of consent may be a random number and have nothing to do with whether someone is actually ready to make a decision, but having A boundary is good, in my opinion. Do the laws have flaws? Yes. Do I think an 18 year old boy should be arrested for having sex with his 17 year old girlfriend? Hell no. That's dumb. But you've got to draw a line somewhere. As a note, I was manipulated when I was younger. Thankfully, I realized what was going on early enough to stop things before anything that I would have really regretted happened, but partially thanks to my friends. I don't know if I would have figured it out by myself until it was too late. It CAN happen to anyone. I am and was a very intelligent, very independent, and decently social girl. I wasn't "popular" in high school, but I had my group of friends and was far from the desperate outcast. I had no problem finding a date if I wanted one (which most of the time I didn't. I thought most of the guys at my high school were morons). I still found myself being manipulated by someone. Even though nothing really bad happened, it still haunts me. The prospect of seeing him again terrifies me. I literally have nightmares where I run into him somewhere and can't get away. This happened almost 7 years ago. I manipulated too by someone younger than me. Don't underestimate the abilities of a predator in training. By the time I realized what was going on it was too late and he raped me. I do understand what you are saying here and I guess they should set the age way back. I mean I was 18 and had a 15 year old BF. We went to school together and there was nothing manipulative about the relationship. Though it was just for fun for me and he fell in love and I broke his heart thats life. I waited until he was 16 to sleep with him but honestly I don't thing there was any difference than if we had done it before his birthday. Only I would get in trouble. I also have a friend who at 21 was dating a 14 year old girl. He truly loves her with all his heart and was waiting till the age of consent when her dad found out about the relationship. He had my friend arrested. She already wasn't a virgin so they had to fight tooth and nail to not leave him with a permanent mark on his record. He got off with a warning from the judge but it's situations like these. I guess maybe make age of consent once you hit high school or make it so that if the older one was a senior when the younger one was a freshman its ok.
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Posted: Fri Feb 05, 2010 5:21 pm
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