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I know I sound like a whiney teenager complaining about my sister and all, but just hear me out, please? And no, I'm not one to cuss often, so when I do here, it's trying to express how pissed I am.

Okay, so my sister gets on my nerves. A lot. And when she doesn't stop... I tend to get physical. I try to hold myself back, but she keeps poking, and going, and antagonizing me.
And then there are the people at school, the one's who're just pricks and jerks, etc etc. We all know them. The one's who arn't bully's, but they sure as hell are not nice.
And with my parents just being friggen' idiots so often recently, they think I am doing everything people are accusing me of when normally I'm not.

That's just extra explenation.

Now, when all of this gets too much, I hit people. I've squeezed my sister's arms untill she got bruises. I've bitten people. I scream and holler.
What can I do when this is happening to stop myself? I've been getting better at controlling myself, but... Today was just too much for me, I'm grounded yet again because of some stupid thing, so I can't get out of the house and cool down.
Help?

I know this corny, but it does help. Have a sit down with everybody in the house hold. Like a family meeting and tell them what has been going on. If nobody listens to you then talk to your school consoler. Yes, it may seem lame but it helps and it's free. Talking is the best answer to every problem. I was like you when I younger and my sister bugged me, I pushed her into walls, beat her, locked her in the room with my snake. I may not know excalty what you are going through, but I have experience. So, my suggestion is talk. Oh! And if they don't listen to you tell your parents you are trying to be mature about this matter, they usually listen well after that.

There's the thing, though. I can't talk to my school councelor -I'm scared of him, but that's another story for another time- and I've already talked to my parents about this. I've told them that I try to keep myself in check but they just won't listen. All they have to say is "Work harder, I know your sister's a pest, but you have to work at this too."
I've been struggling with this for years, and I've made a few threads about it in the past, but that is the only thing people seem to tell me is to talk about it. Talking doesn't help me! I've tried taking up active sports like Karate and such in the past as well, but I'd seen myself using those moves on people around me and forced myself to quit.
I'm asking if there is anyway I can calm myself down when I'm getting into a fit so I won't hurt people. I've tried the whole "Count to 10" thing, and ten seconds just isn't enough to let me get away from a situation. In fact, when they see me close my eyes and start to count they tend to make it worse for themselves.
I just need something to calm myself down, not a way to avoid these situations completely, because they are unavoidable.

Do you go to church, if you do, maybe get involved with church activities.

well i cant help you much more only thing more i can suggest is talk to someone i dont mean to offend you by this but a therapist might help i find they are really the only ones beside yourself who can understand your problem. i found a pastor fixed most of my problem i still black out but i regain control much quicker.

ohhhh, i was there when i was your age, or at least living at home with my sisters. the worst part was that they got away with it because they were 'younger and weaker' than me (yeah right) it wasn't fair.

I understand what you mean about the talking thing, it's the best thing to do initially, but sometimes the family meetings don't work and everyone doesn't end up on the same page. Then there isn't much you can do but try to deal with it yourself.