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Posted: Tue Feb 23, 2010 1:26 am
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Posted: Tue Feb 23, 2010 9:27 pm
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VodkaLeona I'm in that situation a little right now with a guy. I want to have an adult, serious realtionship with a guy that is morally sound enough not to cheat on me. I unfortunatly have bagage that isn't from a distant past, it's still ongoing and I told the guy I'm occasionally dating about it and told him I want a serious relationship but I am not ready for one. He said ok but keeps reminding me when he's talking to me that he wants to see where it goes. I really don;t think it's going to go anywhere because I also want a guy that I can feel butterflies for and be attrackted to as more than just friends and 3 freaking dates is not going to tell me if he is the one I want to be with and I don't have time fore more. Should I just let him go? Tell, him I'm just not feeling it? I don't lead him on. I told him what I want in the future and flat out told him I'm not ready to have it right now. I want to tell him I also don't want to choose the first nice guy I meet right after this drama I've been through, that I'm still trying to clean up. Wait, lemme get this straight. You're dating a guy. You told him you want a serious relationship, but not right now. He's still dating you. He wants to take things more seriously. You don't, you have feelings for another guy. How exactly is that not leading him on?
Different people obviously go by different barometers, so I could understand if you just want to wait it out a few more dates, but be honest with yourself. If you've got "butterflies" with some other guy, you're toying with your partner's emotions.
Definitely not cool.
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Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 1:34 am
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HardQuor VodkaLeona I'm in that situation a little right now with a guy. I want to have an adult, serious realtionship with a guy that is morally sound enough not to cheat on me. I unfortunatly have bagage that isn't from a distant past, it's still ongoing and I told the guy I'm occasionally dating about it and told him I want a serious relationship but I am not ready for one. He said ok but keeps reminding me when he's talking to me that he wants to see where it goes. I really don;t think it's going to go anywhere because I also want a guy that I can feel butterflies for and be attrackted to as more than just friends and 3 freaking dates is not going to tell me if he is the one I want to be with and I don't have time fore more. Should I just let him go? Tell, him I'm just not feeling it? I don't lead him on. I told him what I want in the future and flat out told him I'm not ready to have it right now. I want to tell him I also don't want to choose the first nice guy I meet right after this drama I've been through, that I'm still trying to clean up. Wait, lemme get this straight. You're dating a guy. You told him you want a serious relationship, but not right now. He's still dating you. He wants to take things more seriously. You don't, you have feelings for another guy. How exactly is that not leading him on? Different people obviously go by different barometers, so I could understand if you just want to wait it out a few more dates, but be honest with yourself. If you've got "butterflies" with some other guy, you're toying with your partner's emotions. Definitely not cool.
There is not another guy. I don't do that. I've been cheated on enough to not do that to anyone myself. What I was saying was that this guy I have dated a few times and I talk to a lot, I like him, but I don't have the butterflies. He scares me a little because he is ready to move faster than I am. I told him this and he says he will slow down because He does want to be with me. THERE IS NO WAY IM LEADING THIS GUY ON. I'm truthful and upfront and I am not dating anyone else, just him. He knows this and that is why he is staying. I just wonder if the butterflies don't come at first if they may come after giving this guy more time.
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Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 1:40 am
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Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 5:20 pm
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Posted: Fri Feb 26, 2010 8:43 pm
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Posted: Tue Mar 02, 2010 2:17 pm
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Posted: Sat Jan 29, 2011 4:42 pm
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