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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 10:33 pm
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I knew Fred for about a year before we dated in high school. When we were together, it was for about 4 1/2 years.
Life happened. It got really stressful for the both of us. My parents hate him. They wish he would die (I'm not kidding, they have told me this a few times to my face). He wasn't going to college and he couldn't find a job. I was sick and tired of paying for everything and we were both tired of the arguments. I tried to be a gf instead of a mom, but it just wasn't happening anymore.
He ended up breaking up with me, dating some other slut for a bit, went off to boot camp half way across the state, realized what a ******** head he was for shattering my heart and now wants to get back together.
It's been about six or seven months since he broke up with the slut and it's been about two months since he's been back from basic training.
Since then, he's been so remorseful, he's contemplated on not getting back together with me for fear he might hurt me like that again. In a nutshell, I was so depressed because I never thought he would do what he did that I was afraid I might of died. I'm not an emo like that. I just gave him so much of me emotionally. We were engaged and I had in a way, already given my vows to him. I trusted him with everything. So it was crushing when you are that devoted to someone who does something that ******** up to you.
Anyways. He's been remorseful. He's been more respectful. He does things like send me texts and voicemails that tell me how much I mean to him. He hasn't shown any real interest in any other girl and he's been waiting for me to say yes again.
Part of me wants to say yes because I still love him. Part of me wants to say no because of what he did. The trust isn't exactly what it was but it's healing.
Then part of me is afraid to say yes for fear of everyone else's reaction. My family pretty much hates him. And they've never bothered to ask me why I've been with him for so long and they've never been willing to get to know him.
My dad has been saying, "You only get one life." The implication was that he didn't want me to be with Fred.
The thing is, I only get one life. He made me happy. He still makes me happy. I'd like for him to grow up a bit more sometimes but that's who Fred is. That's part of him that I fell in love with in high school. He's 21 now and I'm 22.
I only get one life. I don't want to spend the rest of my life wondering how it would be to spend the rest of my life with him if I say no. He's changing units and he might get deployed. I'm such a mess with this confusion. I don't want to spend my life waiting and wondering. It's cliche but I want to live like I'm dying and life with no regrets.
*big sigh*
Would anyone be willing to give some words of adivce? Feel free to ask questions if something should be clarified.
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Posted: Fri Feb 05, 2010 8:34 am
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Posted: Mon Feb 08, 2010 7:38 pm
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Posted: Mon Feb 08, 2010 8:07 pm
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Posted: Tue Feb 09, 2010 3:17 pm
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Posted: Tue Feb 09, 2010 3:48 pm
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Posted: Tue Feb 09, 2010 8:50 pm
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Posted: Tue Feb 23, 2010 5:06 pm
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Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 4:00 am
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Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 4:04 am
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Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 1:51 pm
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If you still love him, it is not your parents descision. You make your own descision.
My ex, (who has an account here) broke my heart, hurt me, dissed me and did whatever he did. I still loved him and he hated me. But, he told me "Deep down, I'll still love you..." It was a lie. He stomped on my heart. But, I met a friend on here and we are unseperable. smile *hugs my buddeh cuz I loves him so*
He ruined his chances to get back together with me. Cause, my parents found out about his rude behavior towards me. I don't care though, because I'm afraid of him. It's kinda weird to say...but, I am.
If your guy just so happens to be like him...don't do it...but, if he hasn't done this, go for it.
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Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 7:32 pm
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Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 7:46 pm
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Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 7:50 pm
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