Okay, so I guess this starts with a text message I got last weekend. It was from a number I didn't recognize, but my phone had died last month and I had to get it replaced, to I lost a lot of the numbers I had in it. I thought that maybe it was a friend who maybe got a new phone or something, since they asked what I was doing on Tuesday (Last Tuesday now). I told them that I wasn't up to much of anything and asked why. Then, I got the reply to grab a bite to eat and catch up, which made me hesitant to answer.
Obviously, this meant it was someone who I hadn't see or talked to in a while. I thought it might be a guy friend of mine, but I wasn't sure, so I just didn't reply. Plus, this guy friend of mine has a hard time keeping comments to himself that involve me, since he likes me, but I've told him that we're just friends many times in the past.
Anywho, I get a beeping on my phone with a message from Gaia, since I get those alerts sent to my phone.
I had blocked my most recent ex from seeing my Gaia page, but he ended up creating another account to get a hold of me. He asked if I wanted to get a bite to eat on Wednesday and catch up and gave me his phone number, which was the number that texted me last week. [Insert panic here]
Honestly, he and I ended pretty badly. Last summer, towards the end of the relationship, he ended up avoiding me a bunch and kept saying things like "I'll see you this day or that day" or "I'm staying late at band practice" Part of the reason we broke up was because I hadn't found a job and he felt like he was supporting me financially, which I don't really see how he thought that; I live with my family, he lives with his family, we didn't go out much, I never really asked for him to buy me anything (He bought a Wii randomly for "us" on a whim), etc. He always stated that I didn't do anything, which I guess from a certain stand-point could be true. I don't have a car or license, so I can't really go anywhere (even more so because I live out in the "boonies"), I don't go to school, I don't work, and I don't talk to as many friends as I used to (Mostly because a lot of them weren't really my friends to begin with). The thing is, he didn't see that I was doing things that needed to be done at home; doing laundry, cooking or helping with the cooking, cleaning, etc. He never has to worry about any of that stuff because his parents just do it for him.
Ugh, now I'm straying from the subject.
Long story short, he avoided me for a month, until we "officially" broke up, in which he came to me as was like "Do you want to still be together" to which I replied "If you avoided me for a month, you obviously don't want to be with me" So we broke up and went our separate ways.
Fast forward to seven months later. He asks me to go to lunch with him. I'm wishy-washy on this. I'm the type of person who doesn't shut people out right away, unless they hurt me really badly. After I heal, I might let them back in. I've had a relationship similar to this with another ex, but at some point, i woke up and figured out that if I continued to talk to him, he'd keep thinking that I was still interested and/or affect my relationships with other people.
This ex that wants to eat lunch...he's quite a character, to say the least. He's really smart, music-wise, but he doesn't have really good people skills. He treated me like one of his pals (Which is great sometimes) but then we would constantly say mean or crude things to me. During one particular fight, since we seemed to be having a "This is something about you that is wrong" sort of fight, he said "At least I don't have daddy issues", which obviously left me baffled and he "won" the fight with that blow.
My father passed away when I was 13, and I'm fairly open about it. Sometimes I cry about him and a lot of times I miss him, but I try to keep myself together and move along.
So, to say the least, I was extremely ticked that he used that against me, since I obviously have no control over other people. That fight was a major deciding factor for me to call it quits with him.
But now he wants to catch up, but I'm debating over if I should or not. Part of me says no, because that part thinks that maybe he wants to get back into my life and try to be with me again. Either that or he wants to make himself feel better by talking to someone he figured hasn't done better than him. THe other half of me says yes, because it is possible that he'd like to apologize for everything he put me through and that he is just trying to be friendly. When I was with him, I know he talked to his ex-fiancé's mom, because she still wanted to keep in contact with him. He didn't really like talking to her, but did it anyway. Since I haven't talked to him at all in the amount of time we haven't been together, it does show that he does at lease want to keep in contact with me, since he is pursuing conversation with me.
So now, I'm debating. Should I be friends with him, or shouldn't I? :/
Obviously, this meant it was someone who I hadn't see or talked to in a while. I thought it might be a guy friend of mine, but I wasn't sure, so I just didn't reply. Plus, this guy friend of mine has a hard time keeping comments to himself that involve me, since he likes me, but I've told him that we're just friends many times in the past.
Anywho, I get a beeping on my phone with a message from Gaia, since I get those alerts sent to my phone.
I had blocked my most recent ex from seeing my Gaia page, but he ended up creating another account to get a hold of me. He asked if I wanted to get a bite to eat on Wednesday and catch up and gave me his phone number, which was the number that texted me last week. [Insert panic here]
Honestly, he and I ended pretty badly. Last summer, towards the end of the relationship, he ended up avoiding me a bunch and kept saying things like "I'll see you this day or that day" or "I'm staying late at band practice" Part of the reason we broke up was because I hadn't found a job and he felt like he was supporting me financially, which I don't really see how he thought that; I live with my family, he lives with his family, we didn't go out much, I never really asked for him to buy me anything (He bought a Wii randomly for "us" on a whim), etc. He always stated that I didn't do anything, which I guess from a certain stand-point could be true. I don't have a car or license, so I can't really go anywhere (even more so because I live out in the "boonies"), I don't go to school, I don't work, and I don't talk to as many friends as I used to (Mostly because a lot of them weren't really my friends to begin with). The thing is, he didn't see that I was doing things that needed to be done at home; doing laundry, cooking or helping with the cooking, cleaning, etc. He never has to worry about any of that stuff because his parents just do it for him.
Ugh, now I'm straying from the subject.
Long story short, he avoided me for a month, until we "officially" broke up, in which he came to me as was like "Do you want to still be together" to which I replied "If you avoided me for a month, you obviously don't want to be with me" So we broke up and went our separate ways.
Fast forward to seven months later. He asks me to go to lunch with him. I'm wishy-washy on this. I'm the type of person who doesn't shut people out right away, unless they hurt me really badly. After I heal, I might let them back in. I've had a relationship similar to this with another ex, but at some point, i woke up and figured out that if I continued to talk to him, he'd keep thinking that I was still interested and/or affect my relationships with other people.
This ex that wants to eat lunch...he's quite a character, to say the least. He's really smart, music-wise, but he doesn't have really good people skills. He treated me like one of his pals (Which is great sometimes) but then we would constantly say mean or crude things to me. During one particular fight, since we seemed to be having a "This is something about you that is wrong" sort of fight, he said "At least I don't have daddy issues", which obviously left me baffled and he "won" the fight with that blow.
My father passed away when I was 13, and I'm fairly open about it. Sometimes I cry about him and a lot of times I miss him, but I try to keep myself together and move along.
So, to say the least, I was extremely ticked that he used that against me, since I obviously have no control over other people. That fight was a major deciding factor for me to call it quits with him.
But now he wants to catch up, but I'm debating over if I should or not. Part of me says no, because that part thinks that maybe he wants to get back into my life and try to be with me again. Either that or he wants to make himself feel better by talking to someone he figured hasn't done better than him. THe other half of me says yes, because it is possible that he'd like to apologize for everything he put me through and that he is just trying to be friendly. When I was with him, I know he talked to his ex-fiancé's mom, because she still wanted to keep in contact with him. He didn't really like talking to her, but did it anyway. Since I haven't talked to him at all in the amount of time we haven't been together, it does show that he does at lease want to keep in contact with me, since he is pursuing conversation with me.
So now, I'm debating. Should I be friends with him, or shouldn't I? :/
