Alright, so, I have been dating the same guy for the past year and a half, and we've had a pretty good relationship. But lately.. I don't know. I've really been thinking of breaking up with him. :/ But I just can't for the life of me decide whether or not to do it.
So I tried making a pros and cons list.
Pros of dating him:
-He's really sweet
-He lets me vent
-I'm not alone of the weekends
-He really trust worthy with my secrets
-We have a lot in common
-He's always introducing me to new shows
-He's really conscious of the lines I draw
-He's really nerdy
-He really likes my family
-My family really likes him
-He's easy to be around
-If I stay with him, I won't hurt his feelings
-He rarely says anything bad about me
-We don't fight all that often
-He doesn't go to my school
Cons of dating him:
-He gets jealous really easily and often tries to drive away my guys friends
-He's three years older than me (I'm sixteen (almost 17), he's nineteen)
-He wants to get married as soon as I'm out of high school
-He wants to have children before the age of 25
-I don't want kids before I'm 30
-I don't want to live in my hometown after high school. There is a certain university that I have chosen that I would like to go to, and it is about ten hours away from here. My boyfriend, however, wants me to apply to the university he goes to (which is in the next city over) because he doesn't want to move away from my hometown.
-He's super sensitive. When I try to talk to him about when something bothers me, he immediately starts crying and apologizing and making me feel bad for even bringing it up in the first place
-He can't make decisions about trivial things, only big things. For example, he can never decide whether not to hang out with his friends. So he asks me to make the decision for him and then gets upset if I "pick the wrong one" and he has a bad time
-He has a very verbally abuse father, who likes to nit pick at him. And so if he spends a long day with his father and then hangs out with him, he starts acting like his dad and nit-picking at me. So I'm worried with time he'll get more and more like his dad and start getting really verbally abusive.
-He doesn't like my friends, but he puts up with them
-Sometimes I feel like if I keep dating him, I'll marry him and it will be the wrong decision. You see, he's the only guy I've really ever dated, and so sometimes I feel like maybe I should keep dating people to figure out what I want. I know that if I don't break up with him, he will never break up with him. :S He's already planned our wedding. And I am no where near ready to get married.
:/ Do you girls have any suggestions?
So I tried making a pros and cons list.
Pros of dating him:
-He's really sweet
-He lets me vent
-I'm not alone of the weekends
-He really trust worthy with my secrets
-We have a lot in common
-He's always introducing me to new shows
-He's really conscious of the lines I draw
-He's really nerdy
-He really likes my family
-My family really likes him
-He's easy to be around
-If I stay with him, I won't hurt his feelings
-He rarely says anything bad about me
-We don't fight all that often
-He doesn't go to my school
Cons of dating him:
-He gets jealous really easily and often tries to drive away my guys friends
-He's three years older than me (I'm sixteen (almost 17), he's nineteen)
-He wants to get married as soon as I'm out of high school
-He wants to have children before the age of 25
-I don't want kids before I'm 30
-I don't want to live in my hometown after high school. There is a certain university that I have chosen that I would like to go to, and it is about ten hours away from here. My boyfriend, however, wants me to apply to the university he goes to (which is in the next city over) because he doesn't want to move away from my hometown.
-He's super sensitive. When I try to talk to him about when something bothers me, he immediately starts crying and apologizing and making me feel bad for even bringing it up in the first place
-He can't make decisions about trivial things, only big things. For example, he can never decide whether not to hang out with his friends. So he asks me to make the decision for him and then gets upset if I "pick the wrong one" and he has a bad time
-He has a very verbally abuse father, who likes to nit pick at him. And so if he spends a long day with his father and then hangs out with him, he starts acting like his dad and nit-picking at me. So I'm worried with time he'll get more and more like his dad and start getting really verbally abusive.
-He doesn't like my friends, but he puts up with them
-Sometimes I feel like if I keep dating him, I'll marry him and it will be the wrong decision. You see, he's the only guy I've really ever dated, and so sometimes I feel like maybe I should keep dating people to figure out what I want. I know that if I don't break up with him, he will never break up with him. :S He's already planned our wedding. And I am no where near ready to get married.
:/ Do you girls have any suggestions?