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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2010 5:52 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2010 5:59 pm
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Posted: Sun Sep 05, 2010 4:28 am
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Personally, I find longer hair more attractive but I certainly get how impractical it could be. It is possible he might also just find longer hair in general more attractive and want to see you with long hair, but he's going about it completely wrong.
Something to keep in mind is that in a marriage, you're not just living for yourself anymore and sometimes you have to make compromises. Instead of just refusing because you think it would be inconvenient, have you tried negotiating for something you would like to see him do? For instance: "If I agree to grow my hair out, then you have to dress nicer" or something. Just be sure to think of terms that would be fair and not make outrageous demands that you know he could not possibly ever fulfill.
If you find something equal to you growing out your hair and he refuses to agree to such terms, just wanting you to grow out your hair with nothing done on his part, then ask how growing your hair is going to benefit you in any way. You could also always turn his own insults back on him, saying that if he thinks you look like a 12 year old boy, then he must be a ***** for marrying you. Of course, depending on the delivery and your husband's personality, that might also be a bad idea.... I'd personally find it hilarious, though.
Quite frankly, if you want to use having to wear headgear for your jobs as an excuse to not grow your hair out, that's a pretty weak argument. The problem is solved simply by tying your hair back, which only takes a few seconds. And unless you're growing it out to your hindquarters, brushing shouldn't take that long either. In other words, you can still be "low maintenance" and have what some would consider a more "feminine" length of hair. It's better to just admit that you like the shorter hair for looks or simply because you're so accustomed to keeping it short than to throw out easily defeated excuses to not grow out your hair. Excuses may lead one to believe that those reasons are all that are holding you back and that once they are defeated, you will grow out your hair. Refusal to do so after the argument has been defeated could lead to someone imagining their own reasons for you since you did not give them the real reasons in the first place, so they will have a harder time believing whatever reason you give them after that.
Of course, in the grand scheme of things, hair is a very small issue that shouldn't be something to fight about and throw insults around for. While it may seem ridiculous for him to be making such a big deal over it since it is just hair, for you to be so vehemently against it shows that you are making just as big of a deal. In time, if it hasn't already happened, the argument may become less about hair and more about, "Who's going to get their own way?"
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Posted: Sun Sep 05, 2010 5:43 am
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Posted: Tue Sep 07, 2010 9:21 am
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Posted: Mon Sep 13, 2010 2:18 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 21, 2010 5:45 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 21, 2010 5:59 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2010 8:53 am
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Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2010 9:58 am
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I say, next time he insults your looks, INSULT HIS! scream Seriously, call him fat or something, say he has a beer belly/looks like a geek/whines like a girl/ect. . .
I actually have long hair (past my waist) and it is very high maintenance to look good. Washing it takes several minutes, drying takes forever, styling even longer, has to be "moved out the way" when going to the bathroom, kills vacuum cleaners when shed, the tips need moisturizer while the roots are too oily, the only quick styles are ponytail or headband, covers all the cute/funny logos and designs on the backs shirts and jackets, AND PEOPLE ALWAYS WANT TO FREAKING TOUCH IT! EVEN RANDOM STRANGERS IN THE STREET! gonk I HATE anyone not me touching my hair in any way!
When I do cut it every now and then, I donate. 3nodding
*sigh* but for all it's problems, I love my long hair whee It's like my little baby or pet bonsai lol. rofl
How short is your hair btw?
If you can pull of the short hair look go for it!
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Posted: Sat Sep 17, 2011 6:18 am
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Posted: Thu Sep 22, 2011 6:59 am
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