I have a Question.

[Herr Sinne]

So a person in my year at a school died recently. I didn't know him and in all honestly, the only time we spoke was in math when he asked me to explain a problem.

I don't have the time to go to the wake and pay my respects, so I'm going to send a card of some kind.

I was told by my mother that I'm a ******** horrible human being if I don't go. I miss general psychology and Western Civilization if I go though.

So am I a horrible person?  

[coldheartedangel]

No.

He wasn't a close friend and honestly even if he was it doesn't mean you should be forced too go.  

[scrub]

Your Mum probably empathises a lot with his parents hence the strong reaction. I'm sure its a nightmare to loose your child so young and parents tend to worry about their kids as it is.

Personally I think it would be kinda weird to go if you didn't know him. I would feel like I was intruding on a families mourning for no reason.  

[Undead Honey Cake]

scrub

Your Mum probably empathises a lot with his parents hence the strong reaction. I'm sure its a nightmare to loose your child so young and parents tend to worry about their kids as it is.

Personally I think it would be kinda weird to go if you didn't know him. I would feel like I was intruding on a families mourning for no reason.

i agree with scrub, it's great that your sending a card, it shows you care, but you didn't know him nor where you he your friend you don't really need or should you really go.  

[iceryu66]

Why the ******** should you care?
A guy who asked me for the time once died, and now I have to go to his *insert death party here*?

(PS: In my family it is a death party, good parties to, which is odd because were normally very withdrawn from that sort of thing.)  

[Szen]

I agree with Scrub 100%. I would feel really awkward being there. Plus, I hate how when someone dies, they suddenly have 92348234324 friends.  

[SweetScentOfSweat]

Don't go.
Maybe it's from my experience with funerals,
or the fact I'll be attending one in about two days,
but from what I've seen, if you're not going to
calm someone else or going to mourn,
it's best you not go at all.


My friend died Wednesday night.
I don't want to go to his funeral.
I just think if I don't, I'll regret it,
so I'm going to go.

 

[scrub]

Szen

I agree with Scrub 100%. I would feel really awkward being there. Plus, I hate how when someone dies, they suddenly have 92348234324 friends.

I really hate that to.

A girl (Milly Dowler) died under nasty circumstances and it made national news, she went to Heathside school which was very near my High School, so many of us knew people from there.
Suddenly everyone in my school was apparently this girls BFF. I thought it was really pathetic to try and gain attention from another families tragedy. neutral  

[kim ocean]

SweetScentOfSweat

My friend died Wednesday night.
I don't want to go to his funeral.
I just think if I don't, I'll regret it,
so I'm going to go.

Sorry for your loss sad

Stream Line: Unless your parents and his parents are close friends, it would be kind of weird to go if you didn't know him that well. Or if a friend of yours was a friend of his. Otherwise, I agree with everyone else. A funeral should be a time to remember someone, not figure out who they were. I think it's very thoughtful of you to even send a card.  

[Renard Muldrake]

I don't think it makes you horrible, you didn't know the guy, no reason for you to care. Plus, there are so many better reasons I think you're a horrible person.

Also, a few weeks ago some dude, I sorta kinda knew died in a house fire, & I was hangin' about some folks he knew, & told one of them to die in a fire, they were displeased. To be fair, I didn't know he was dead.