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Posted: Mon Nov 29, 2010 11:37 am
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Posted: Mon Nov 29, 2010 11:42 am
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Posted: Mon Nov 29, 2010 11:49 am
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Posted: Mon Nov 29, 2010 12:21 pm
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Posted: Sat Dec 04, 2010 9:56 am
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[~+~]
Oops, wrong poll option. xD; Read it after i'd clicked one. gonk
It depends on how it's intented. Obviously if it's just for the sake of it, then no, that is abuse.
However, i was "spanked" as a child, but it was never a real violent spank, it was just, well, what you would deem appropriate all those years ago. Children need to be disciplined somehow, and yelling at them isn't always enough. Let's put it this way, from a young age i learnt if i did something really bad, i'd get smacked (not as violent as it sounds, it's just what we call it over here xD; ), so i learnt not to misbehave, and it worked. It's as Vanna said, they wonder why there are so many rebellious teenagers these days - it's because trying to discipline your child is now termed as "abuse". |:
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Posted: Sat Dec 04, 2010 10:37 am
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Posted: Sun Dec 05, 2010 2:11 pm
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Posted: Sun Dec 05, 2010 2:13 pm
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It depends on how the spanking is done. Spanking until the child bruises and blisters is abuse, a little reddening is ok.
When I was in elementary and middle school, the only thing keeping my friends from doing bad things such as theft, bullying, vandalism, and such was actually the fear of being spanked! My school even had spanking as a punishment! All parents were given a permission slip of sorts saying it was ok/not ok for the admin to spank their children! gonk
Believe me, I've seen a HUGE noticeable difference in kids who get spanked vs kids who don't.
My grandparents spanked my parents, my parents spanked me, and I will most likely spank my children too. Spanking kept us off drugs and out of jail! Do you know how we all talk about our experiences of being spanked? With fun! xd
Me: Hey sis, remember that one time we threw dominoes at each other inside the house?
Sister: LOL ya! We got spanked so hard I though I couldn't sit for a week! rofl
Mom: Ah! This one time when I was around 12 I believe, I painted the toilet seat white, my brother went in to use it and . . .*blahblah* . . . Haha! My mother just whipped off her shoe spanked me so hard. . .*blahblah* . . . Good times good times! rofl
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Posted: Sun Dec 05, 2010 2:57 pm
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Posted: Sun Dec 19, 2010 2:53 pm
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Posted: Sun Dec 19, 2010 3:00 pm
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Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 5:56 pm
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I work for the Family Nurturing Center where I teach to abusive and neglectful parents how to parent efficiently and without abuse. I was also spanked as a child. Never with a belt, but an open hand, one or two swats on the bottom.
I do not think spanking with an open hand is abuse. Spanking with objects and hitting hard enough to leave marks is though. I do think that spanking should be a last ditch attempt. I think reasoning and talking privilages away should happen first and if that doesn't do anything, the, "I don't want to spank you, but if you don't straighten up, there are consequences to actions," might work.
I worked at a daycare and one of the little boys in my class was a problem child. He had a crappy home life and at the age of three had lived in about ten different homes. Every three or four months he was moving again. His grandfather was president of the school-board for the daycare I worked/interned at. I remember one day this boy ran out into the middle of the street as a car was coming. Scared the daylights of everyone around. His mom grabbed him, and out of stress, gave him a swat on the bottom. Of course, the boy cried. His grandfather (who hated his mom; it was B.'s paternal grandfather) grabbed B. from his mother, rubbed his butt and said things like, "Mommy is just mean." However a few weeks later, B was participating in a normal, but annoying childhood activity. Blowing bubbles in his milk. He was told twice to stop, and didn't. Finally his grandfather hit him in the back of the head/neck/shoulders pretty hard. I watched the child cry as he had food in his mouth and I didn't want him to choke as he had a really hard time catching his breath. And one deep breath was all he would have needed to bring that food down his throat and choke. I reported him. Take the damn cup away. I will admit that B. was a problem at times, but no child has a right to be hit like that.
My dad scared me when I was younger, he used to take his belt and snap it in front of us to scare us and make us act right. I don't think that was kind or fair of him, but he never once hit me with the belt.
There is a line to appropriate spanking and punishment. It's not invisible or even thin.
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Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 10:43 pm
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Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 4:50 am
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