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Posted: Sat May 07, 2011 8:21 pm


	Apparently, according to my friend, Im overly nice, in a sense that I will hurt myself (emotionally and mentally) just to make sure another person is not. I always put others before myself (I will stay and listen to a friend when they trouble for the entire night up to the next day, even if I have sa major test the next day...not like I study or sleep anyway), and have trouble saying no (to helping with simple tasks or favors). She claims that I'm too chivalrous. Of course, I know that there is not a sinlge human being out there that is not selfish, in some aspect, me included. I can be a total b**h, at times. But, my friends says that I'm not selfish enough* when it comes to my personal happiness or time. Is that okay? It's just the way I am. I treat people with respect when they need it...only it kinda takes its toll on me, sometimes. What would you consider being "too nice"?

Posted: Sat May 07, 2011 9:17 pm


	It's always good to be nice. Be nice when you need to be nice and you'll know when that is, but sticking up for yourself and learning when to say no doesn't make you a bad person. Plus, it's always good to take care of yourself first because if you don't you can't expect to take care of others. That's what my parents always told me.

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Posted: Sat May 07, 2011 10:15 pm


	i do the same thing. yeah, it makes for a good character. people like you more, find you hard to hate. but sometimes, as i've learned recently for myself, you tend to let yourself suffer mostly because you view your own problems as lesser than everyone else's. it's good in terms that you have a great amount of empathy for what others need and the sympathy necessary to do something, but you can't ignore how you feel in relation to everything. cuz remember, no matter what problems everyone else has, you still have your own things that you might need to take care of. but i admire people that put others before themselves. nice smile

Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 9:15 am


	i'm the same way my parents taught me to be like that, you'll be fine.

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Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 4:39 pm


	Don't judge me Just love me. I'm not a criminal, I'm innocent So come and set me free! I'm pretty much exactly like that. I can be a b***h, and I don't have a hard time saying "no" But when someone has a problem, I listen. No matter what. And when I have a problem, sure I wanna talk about it.. But if my friend has a problem too.. i say "Screw my problem." cause their problems are more important to me than mine.... O_o Though, yeah.. in some cases, it can hurt you, actually... it's hurt me a few times... Cause one of my friends was talking about a problem that I could relate to... so i said so, and she didn't want to hear it :/ Probably cause I never act like i have a problem, nor do i even talk about it to anyone. Anyway, we got into a fight over it... and then later we got into a fight about how I never talk about my problems... So, yes, it's good to be that way... but sometimes it can hurt you... I choose ecstasy. And music's my religion. Magic is my kingdom And the dance floor is my heaven.

Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 4:49 pm


	sans-coeur13 i do the same thing. yeah, it makes for a good character. people like you more, find you hard to hate. but sometimes, as i've learned recently for myself, you tend to let yourself suffer mostly because you view your own problems as lesser than everyone else's. it's good in terms that you have a great amount of empathy for what others need and the sympathy necessary to do something, but you can't ignore how you feel in relation to everything. cuz remember, no matter what problems everyone else has, you still have your own things that you might need to take care of. but i admire people that put others before themselves. nice smile Thanks :] It's nice to know that I'm not alone, at least. And thanks to everyone else that replied. :3

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Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 4:55 pm


	--Untoten Kase-- Don't judge me Just love me. I'm not a criminal, I'm innocent So come and set me free! I'm pretty much exactly like that. I can be a b***h, and I don't have a hard time saying "no" But when someone has a problem, I listen. No matter what. And when I have a problem, sure I wanna talk about it.. But if my friend has a problem too.. i say "Screw my problem." cause their problems are more important to me than mine.... O_o Though, yeah.. in some cases, it can hurt you, actually... it's hurt me a few times... Cause one of my friends was talking about a problem that I could relate to... so i said so, and she didn't want to hear it :/ Probably cause I never act like i have a problem, nor do i even talk about it to anyone. Anyway, we got into a fight over it... and then later we got into a fight about how I never talk about my problems... So, yes, it's good to be that way... but sometimes it can hurt you... I choose ecstasy. And music's my religion. Magic is my kingdom And the dance floor is my heaven. Yeah, I hear ya. My friends cme to me to talk all the time. It's a good thing that I don't seem to have as many problems as them, lol. But the occasional ones do come, and when they hit, they hit like a train wreck. :/ I tend to hide my emotions and problems. A lot. Even when I'm unhappy or tired, I don't show it. My general mindst is "oh well. I'll get over it." It's great to be the strong one for everyone. But even the strong have their limits...

Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 5:16 pm


	DeathStarXII --Untoten Kase-- Don't judge me Just love me. I'm not a criminal, I'm innocent So come and set me free! I'm pretty much exactly like that. I can be a b***h, and I don't have a hard time saying "no" But when someone has a problem, I listen. No matter what. And when I have a problem, sure I wanna talk about it.. But if my friend has a problem too.. i say "Screw my problem." cause their problems are more important to me than mine.... O_o Though, yeah.. in some cases, it can hurt you, actually... it's hurt me a few times... Cause one of my friends was talking about a problem that I could relate to... so i said so, and she didn't want to hear it :/ Probably cause I never act like i have a problem, nor do i even talk about it to anyone. Anyway, we got into a fight over it... and then later we got into a fight about how I never talk about my problems... So, yes, it's good to be that way... but sometimes it can hurt you... I choose ecstasy. And music's my religion. Magic is my kingdom And the dance floor is my heaven. Yeah, I hear ya. My friends cme to me to talk all the time. It's a good thing that I don't seem to have as many problems as them, lol. But the occasional ones do come, and when they hit, they hit like a train wreck. :/ I tend to hide my emotions and problems. A lot. Even when I'm unhappy or tired, I don't show it. My general mindst is "oh well. I'll get over it." It's great to be the strong one for everyone. But even the strong have their limits... Don't judge me Just love me. I'm not a criminal, I'm innocent So come and set me free! Mhmm... I practically hide everything i feel that isn't happiness... You just need to be careful... the people you do this to will get used to it, and just won't like hearing your problems.. Just let them out bit by bit, or talk about them occasionally.... That's what I do so nothing really bad happens... I choose ecstasy. And music's my religion. Magic is my kingdom And the dance floor is my heaven.

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Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 5:23 pm


	--Untoten Kase-- DeathStarXII --Untoten Kase-- Don't judge me Just love me. I'm not a criminal, I'm innocent So come and set me free! I'm pretty much exactly like that. I can be a b***h, and I don't have a hard time saying "no" But when someone has a problem, I listen. No matter what. And when I have a problem, sure I wanna talk about it.. But if my friend has a problem too.. i say "Screw my problem." cause their problems are more important to me than mine.... O_o Though, yeah.. in some cases, it can hurt you, actually... it's hurt me a few times... Cause one of my friends was talking about a problem that I could relate to... so i said so, and she didn't want to hear it :/ Probably cause I never act like i have a problem, nor do i even talk about it to anyone. Anyway, we got into a fight over it... and then later we got into a fight about how I never talk about my problems... So, yes, it's good to be that way... but sometimes it can hurt you... I choose ecstasy. And music's my religion. Magic is my kingdom And the dance floor is my heaven. Yeah, I hear ya. My friends cme to me to talk all the time. It's a good thing that I don't seem to have as many problems as them, lol. But the occasional ones do come, and when they hit, they hit like a train wreck. :/ I tend to hide my emotions and problems. A lot. Even when I'm unhappy or tired, I don't show it. My general mindst is "oh well. I'll get over it." It's great to be the strong one for everyone. But even the strong have their limits... Don't judge me Just love me. I'm not a criminal, I'm innocent So come and set me free! Mhmm... I practically hide everything i feel that isn't happiness... You just need to be careful... the people you do this to will get used to it, and just won't like hearing your problems.. Just let them out bit by bit, or talk about them occasionally.... That's what I do so nothing really bad happens... I choose ecstasy. And music's my religion. Magic is my kingdom And the dance floor is my heaven. Thanks :] I know there are people who will actually listen to me. I just don't like showing my emotions. Instead, I express them through my art. Its a lot easier for me. And of course, my art is rather dark. But at least my friends understand and are used to it. :3

Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 7:24 pm


	I want a tattoo(: 4laugh

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Posted: Mon May 09, 2011 2:26 am


	This is exactly my problem. I have some friends who enjoy my politeness and are grateful for it, but then I have friends who realize that I'm too nice, and take advantage of it (whether they recognize that they're doing it or not). Recently, since I can drive, I've been one friend's chauffeur, In general, I do everyone a ton of small favors that add up to me having no time to do what I need to do and getting frustrated with everyone. Especially when I meet conflict when I don't want to do a favor. My advice is, you can be too nice; know what your limit is, and say 'no' before you exceed it. Otherwise, your own personal feelings will get in the way of being nice and turn it into a confrontation.