I want YOUR opinion.

[ForteAmora]

Ok there is this constant argument between my parents. My Dad believes that as being my Mother figure, my step mom should set an example (You know like Monkey see, Mokey do.) However, My Step mom things that I should only do as she says and setting an example doesn't matter. So... Who do you think is right?

 

[Destructive-Kiwi]

Setting an example matters.  

[Le Scratch]

The parent must to set an example. If I told you not to steal candy but then you see me doing it, are you honestly going to follow my word? Without a follow-through in action, words are meaningless.  

[Gordums]

Why do we tell others what they should do if we ourselves don't do it?

 

[Harmony8910]

I think your father is right. Think about it, do you ever listen to a dictator? I'm not a big fan of dictators. I think I would listen more, if the person ordering me around, did the same exact thing he or she expects me to do.  

[Farthingale]

Well unless you're living with someone who is aware they have a problem or do something wrong, but find it really hard to stop. And they don't want you to fall into the same trap they did. That's ok, surely?  

[PigsGoMooo]

Le Scratch

The parent must to set an example. If I told you not to steal candy but then you see me doing it, are you honestly going to follow my word? Without a follow-through in action, words are meaningless.

Agreed.

 

[cajunantichrist]

obviously you gotta set an example, monkey see monkey do is alot easier to follow than do as I say not as I do.  

[earthowl]

Do what you feel is right.  

[grandaire]

Setting examples works better, but honestly, it's your life.
Follow your mind and conscience, and do what you think is right for you.  

[onepromise17]

You have to lead by example. Doing anything else is hypocrisy! It's why we're discouraged to swear in front of small children.  

[vann-haal13]

After living under a dictator for most of my life until I got adopted out of the hellhole that was my birth home, I'm all for setting an example. My mother would say not to criticize others or gossip but then come home and b***h for hours. She said it wasn't ok to hit but then turn around and I'd have bruises on my arms. You get the point though. It's all about the example.  

[OMGITSMiShKi]

Both. If she can dish it out she can do it also.
But then you should always respect your elders.
s**t will come back to you if you don't.  

[DayhawK68]

She should be an example. If she says one thing and does another what is she to expect from you?