Coming out-the significance

[Shadow Ra Warrior]

Lately I been wondering about the signifance of coming out; I always heard that being G.L.B.T.Q. was a private matter; should be kept on the down low. So tell me, in your opinion, what does it mean to be "out" for you?  

[Flame Dashie]

Shadow Ra Warrior

Lately I been wondering about the signifance of coming out; I always heard that being G.L.B.T.Q. was a private matter; should be kept on the down low. So tell me, in your opinion, what does it mean to be "out" for you?

to me being out means that i can tell everyone who i am and let them know that im no differant than a strait person because love is what it is and it shouldnt matter who you love. comming out is a way to be open to the world and letting them know your here and proud to be who you are....but thats just my oppinion  

[Shadow Ra Warrior]

scarrllett

Shadow Ra Warrior

Lately I been wondering about the signifance of coming out; I always heard that being G.L.B.T.Q. was a private matter; should be kept on the down low. So tell me, in your opinion, what does it mean to be "out" for you?

to me being out means that i can tell everyone who i am and let them know that im no differant than a strait person because love is what it is and it shouldnt matter who you love. comming out is a way to be open to the world and letting them know your here and proud to be who you are....but thats just my oppinion

Thank you for your opinion; I hope more people would post but oh well.  

[Sarah_L_Awesome]

To me it means that I can openly love whom I love and already know how the people around me will react, and that I can be myself around them and I'm not hiding anything from them and such. It's kind of hard to explain.  

[gothicchibee]

It means to me that I can be me no matter who I am around XD if that person doesn't like gays then that is their problem .... I am me and will never wavier because of that truth XD  

[Kaze Espada]

It means I can tell my greatest obstacle, my bully of a little brother.  

[Flame Dashie]

Furthermore, being a lesbian is who i am i wan t to e noticed for me you like it your my friend you dont than ******** off. pick on me if you want ill kick your a** mrgreen i am who i am and you are who you are if they dont like that go away we are a natural part of the community and should be treated as such  

[Purple Robot Queen]

I've never been the type to make my sexuality central to my existence and behavior. I'm a fairly introverted person, and my natural personality just doesn't really match the typical gay stereotypes.

With that being said, for me being 'out' just means that I can comfortably treat my romantic life the same way any straight person would, talking about it and acting on it in the same settings and with the same degree of normalcy that they would. In a lot of ways, being 'out' makes my gayness a smaller part of my personality. When I was in the closet, I built my entire focus and worldview around one big secret that needed to be kept. I spent most of my time thinking about it, and worrying about it, so it really came to define who I was. Now, I can just let it be there like the fact that I enjoy death metal or that I study philosophy: it's a part of my life and it matters, but it's not the all-consuming central focus.  

[The Bodacious Soul Reaper]

For me, to have "come out" means that, not that everyone accepts you because no matter what race, gender, sexuality, there will always be that one person. But I think it means that your loved ones and friends, and generally the people around you know who you truly are.

 

[Pompette]

For me, being out is to express who I really am without any restrictions to who I should go out with based on gender. As well as for the environment around me to get use to who I really am. The earlier, the better things are in the future.  

[MadHatterDA]

The Bodacious Soul Reaper

For me, to have "come out" means that, not that everyone accepts you because no matter what race, gender, sexuality, there will always be that one person. But I think it means that your loved ones and friends, and generally the people around you know who you truly are.

I agree with this one, because yet again coming from the bible belt acceptance is not something everyone here receives. I know for many here coming out is simply making it a general public thing of who you are.  

[shares_stomach_acid]

It was always obvious to me that I was Bi. And I kinda forgot that it wasn't obvious to everyone else. So when I got a girlfriend my parents freaked out and i was horribly confused, like "You didn't know?" Owo?
But yea, for me coming out/ being out is I guess being open about your orientation. Like not trying to keep the fact that you like someone of the same gender on the down low, but treating it the same way a straight person would *shrugs* thats just what I've always done. Being bi was never weird/ abnormal to me, so I treat it like its not weird/ abnormal to everyone else.  

[Esiris]

Shadow Ra Warrior

So tell me, in your opinion, what does it mean to be "out" for you?

It's the same with Pride- there are so many unspoken assumptions about me. People assume my gender is one thing when it's not, people assume that because of my sex I love a certain kind of person.
Coming out is a stand- it's saying I'm who I am, not less than a straight cis person just because I'm not like them.

Everyday we're bombarded with cis heterosexual images and support for cis heterosexual relationships- that can feel really isolating. Coming out lets others see they're not alone.

It's a decision everyone has to make for themselves and I never advocate people coming out in unsafe situations.

This is a checklist of things that Straight People take for granted and here is a list of things cisgendered people take for granted- it's bad, but you have to know and remember this isn't anyone's fault. These are things we all have social blinders onto- but coming out, making people understand that we're normal and not "abnormal" just because we're a minority is really important when it comes to fighting for equality.  

[WalrusCokeheadLizard]

I really can't say because my mom found out around the same time I did. I guess it would help out if you decided to be in a long term relationship because you wouldn't have to force your significant other to lie to your parents and act like they're not playing a major role in your life