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Posted: Tue Apr 24, 2012 9:07 pm
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Posted: Tue Apr 24, 2012 9:59 pm
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First and foremost, please remember deciding to come out is a personal matter. While seeking opinions from others is perfectly fine, do not allow anyone's words sway your decision to come out. You do this on your own terms; no pressure at all - take all the time you need.
Now, in regards to the situation...
I think you should do a bit of digging; try to seep the idea around both of your father and stepfather. Test the waters and see how they react to comments or conversations about LGBT. If either of them are strictly against it, then I suggest refrain from telling anyone in the family. Wait until you're off on your own.
However, I do believe you should come out to your friends. Friends will always be strong systems of support when the S%#@ hits the fan. Furthermore, if your "friends" desert you when you come out, then F$#%'em; they're not real friends. Also, if you haven't done so already, I suggest mingling with other LGBT folk. They can give you great pointers, perspectives, etc., and may even become friends as well.
Good luck, and remember that this is about you - no one else.
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Posted: Tue Apr 24, 2012 10:46 pm
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Posted: Tue Apr 24, 2012 11:13 pm
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The Bodacious Soul Reaper
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Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 5:11 am
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Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2012 8:01 am
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mehwuvzgurlz Should I come out of the closet- or wait a bit longer? I'm 16 and I've been a lesbian since I was 14. I knew I was at least bi when I was 13. I've completly accepted myself- but should I come out? I know for a fact that my mom wouldn't care- I've hinted around at it. Sometimes when taking about dating/marriage- future stuff with me... She'd correct herself and add 'or she'. But then there's my dad (step-dad, actually) I'm not sure about his reaction. Would he freak out? I'm not sure. I would also be nervous telling my REAL dad this. I try to ignore him as much as possible. Then there's my friends. I have NO CLUE how they'll react. Especially the girl I think I still kinda like. (it was a crush- but it's hard to tell unless I'm talking to her. Internet or person. She once used the 'L' word- my heart literally skipped a beat!) So what do you think? Start telling people or wait a year or so?
Its really up to u, i would just wait to tell people, what is the big rush anyways
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Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2012 10:48 am
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Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2012 2:09 pm
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Tell your parents when you're out of the house and living on your own. That way, even if they do get mad, which hopefully they won't, you won't be their problem anymore, so you won't have to listen to any of the dumb things they might say, like "you have a disorder" or "there's a wonderful treatment that can cure your attraction to females". That's just my opinion, but if you're ready to come out, that's entirely up to you. And you can tell a few people you know you can trust, like some of your friends. Or you can continue dropping hints to people. FYI, I haven't came out yet as bi, but I plan to around the time I get to college. In the meantime, I've just been dropping hints at it.
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