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Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2012 8:58 pm
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Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2012 9:08 pm
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Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2012 9:25 pm
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You may notice that your post has been edited. There was no need to go into explicit sexual detail, not only because it's against the guild's rules, but also because...seriously, TMI. Double-posting is also frowned upon, for the record; we're a slow guild, you don't need to bump your own thread.
To address the gist of your post: Two wrongs don't make a right. If you're in a monogamous relationship, and want to stay that way, then you don't get to cheat. It wasn't right for your girlfriend to do so, so why would it be "fair" or right for you to do the same?
If you can't see the point in following the rules, even though breaking them would apparently "crush" you, then perhaps you shouldn't be in the relationship at all. Despite your assertion that you two have worked things out, you still sound pretty hung up over her unfaithfulness. I don't blame you; something like that is hard to get past. But if you've forgiven her, and you want to have some sort of future together, then at some point you'll need to move past this incident. Dwelling on your own urge to be unfaithful (and trying to rationalize it) isn't going to accomplish anything.
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Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2012 10:11 pm
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Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2012 10:50 pm
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Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2012 10:55 pm
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Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2012 4:24 am
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Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2012 5:12 am
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Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2012 6:22 am
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Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2012 6:27 am
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Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2012 10:27 am
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Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2012 10:33 am
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Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2012 11:31 am
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Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 1:38 pm
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Fashionable Businesswoman
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Posted: Sun Dec 16, 2012 12:20 pm
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Perhaps you should talk to her about an open relationship, or polygamy, or even inviting others into bed with the two of you? It seems as if both of you have needs that aren't being met; my suggestions may not be right for the two of you, or they could be, but regardless you two need to talk about your needs and come to an agreement. Honesty is the best policy, and that includes sharing your needs and wants with each other. Otherwise, cheating and other problems will surface. A couple of thoughts to provoke you with before you make any big decisions [if you haven't already]: remember that jealousy and fear are the opposite of love, and doubt is the opposite of optimism. Jealousy, fear and doubt are recipes for disaster in any relationship. One more: Pain is in vain. When somebody behaves in a way that causes you pain, take a moment to think about it from their perspective before you get upset and react. Perhaps their is a problem going on in the other person's life that is behind their actions, and solving that problem could solve both of your problems. People often lash out and do things they wouldn't normally when something in their life is causing them emotional turmoil. Rather than adding onto the problem at hand [for example, cheating on your partner because she cheated], see if you can solve the problem at the source and prevent it from turning into even more problems.
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