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I'm guessing that since this is a guild for girls, that we all knmow what's it like to be bitchy or hormonal. We've all said things that we didnt mean.

Lately, my parents have been making me feel guilty about everything that I do in their house. They tell me that I use them for money every time I so much as make me a sandwich.

I have have job (a job that doesnt pay me![my mom wont let me quit]), I clean house, I do homework. I do everything a normal teenager would do. So, forgive me if I get a little annoyed everytime I get called a "user". Today, they told me they were kicking me out right then and there and that I couldnt take any of my stuff with me. My mom started yelling at me at the top of her lungs because I told I didnt want to leave. I wanted to stay..... and then after...I told her to stop yelling at me.

Right then and there, my dad grabbed me by the throat and threw me down and then grabbed my hair and started to drag me out the door. I fought back of course, I don't like being touched..... and they told me they were sick of me. Mom called me fat and ugly and I blurted out that I wanted them dead. I have no idea what came over me... because I don't. I just want to be respected... I dont want to be hurt....

I dont know what to do. I was never taught how to take care of myself. I dont know how to start when it comes to moving out and finding an actual paying job, although I have been trying to schedule a meeting with the county labor board for the past two months.

Please.... any kind words, help and advice is really needed... I need some support... What do I do? I'm not usually like this, but girls, I don't think I can take this any longer...... I'm ready to end it one way or another.

Parents can lose patience to their children at some point, but I feel your case is too extreme because it involves physical damage.

I don't know how to help you, sorry.

Oh my god. Sweetheart, are you alright?

For starters, you do not use them, you are doing nothing wrong. I want you to understand that, okay? You did nothing wrong.

They had no right to treat you like that, and I agree with owl on this- you should tell the police that this happened (and from what you wrote, it seems like they are verbally abusing you, along with physical, possibly mental abuse). I'd suggest also talking to someone about this. If your college has a counselor of any sort, I heavily suggest you talk to them about this.

And sweetheart, please don't hurt yourself or beat yourself up over this at all, okay? Please, please don't hurt yourself.

I'm here if you need anything.

I Agree with what Lozz says. Even though you're nineteen and in college, you need to speak to someone. Get a new job as well. Try to get away from all the negativity in your life. And for your brother that's horrible. No one should be treated like that.

When you have a job, and savings to buy stuff that you need for your appartement. Some people would share an appartement with friends, so they split the rent expenses.

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I am so sorry this is happening to you. Please listen to what others have said here, seek help. Look for a paying job. You may be able to qualify for student housing too. Talk to your school counselors. If they even touch you again, report it to the police.

I agree you should talk to someone. It's a good idea to talk to the police about this so that there is a record of what happened. You should also talk to some experts who can give you professional advice. This website might be a good place to Start.

Your school should also have some good resources. Talking to a mental health councilor can be incredibly beneficial. I had to go to a councilor several times during college when dealing with suicidal friends. At first I didn't want to go but after actually talking to them I was really glad I had because they helped me a lot.

You should also talk to your schools housing office about opportunities to live on campus. They may have a scholarship or something to help you afford staying in the dorms. You could also look into any student jobs that might give you free housing. For example many schools give free housing to students who work as resident advisors.

Even though you're over 18, you should get in touch with the Department of Children & Families. They will be able to help you.


I went through a lot of family problems myself. I am so sorry you have to go through this.

HUGS!!! heart