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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2012 1:57 pm
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Just thought I'd start a thread seeing as there was nothing in here about being openly and physically romantic with many others (that I've seen).
I've been in it for 10 years now. I'm still learning. Funny...the girl that I was in my second poly relationship didn't really go by all the rules of it. Yes...there's actual rules to it. We went to a club and one of her partners that I didn't know about was there. She left with him and just shrugged me off.
There are many types of Polygamy. Anyways, The gist to BASIC polygamy...
1. Be open with your partners. Tell them that you're interested in other people 2. CHEATING is NOT polygamy. It's all about good communication 3. Have fun with it. Share your partners with your other partners; sit down with your partners and discuss the good and bad you had with other people.
I have a steady partner right now. She is my primary; though I do my best to encourage her to seek other partners. I'm not saying that I'm tired with her and we should take some time off, it's just saying 'hon, there are other flavours in your roll of Lifesavers...try them out' xd .
After 20yrs of being in monogamous relationships (I'm 30 now), I just can't see myself going back into a monogamous relationship, knowing that I want to see other guys and gals. My first poly experience was 9 years ago. A friend of mine was going out with this guy that she wasn't too into when she was going out with me. She told him she was seeing me as well. Surprisingly, he was okay with it. So it turned out that we had a 3 person (cuz saying the other three thing is just dirty) exclusive relationship. We were loving it. Then time passed, she moved to another city and me and the other guy were heartbroken. Fast forward to now. The girl I'm with had her first poly experience with a guy that she use to work with, and I with his wife. After they left, we had a great discussion about it; how she felt about it, what it was like for the first time, would she like to do it again, etc.
What I heard about poly partners, I totally agree with. Having the openness to be with whoever you want, really does bring the primary partners together great. Now...there are situations where there are poly connections where each partner goes off with someone else and DOESN"T share. That's fine...sometimes couples find others that each individual doesn't click with. Now, you might be thinking 'GREAT! I can go with someone and not have to worry that I don't have someone to fall back on. NOOO! There's still the communication part. If you think that you might get jealous of your partner going off with someone else, or going to a swinging party with them, whether or not they tell you...then being poly is NOT for you.
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Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 8:03 pm
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Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 9:27 pm
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Posted: Sun Dec 16, 2012 11:06 am
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Posted: Sun Dec 16, 2012 11:23 am
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Posted: Sun Dec 16, 2012 11:41 am
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Fashionable Businesswoman
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Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2012 6:30 am
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Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2012 6:49 am
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Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2012 6:56 am
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Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2012 9:04 pm
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 5:29 am
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 7:31 am
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Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2012 2:48 am
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Vocab moment! 3nodding
Polygamy - multi-marriage and illegal in the USA.
Polyamory - multi-love not illegal.
I am poly, I have 3 romantic partners and a sex friend (too casual to be a boyfriend but not casual enough to be a ******** buddy) It works for me. On your general gist list, what if my other partners are straight and don't want to be shared? I sure my hubby does NOT want to have a relationship with my male bodied ******** buddy, nor would he. They are both very straight. Nor would one of my other partners want a relationship with my husband, they have an almost familial bond going on. And I certainly do not wish to have a relationship with my husband's girlfriend, nice girl, not my type. sweatdrop
I totes agree with the have fun thing and your other list points though.
I have been called all sorts of fun names here on Gaia, and here within this guild, slut, whore, greedy, loose, tramp, trash, c** bucket, std ridden filth, cheater, non-committal. I have been told my love is not real. Fun times. neutral
I can say I will never be monogamous again, its a whole paradigm shift. I am happy as I am, the happiest really. Each partner is another part of my support system. They all have my six, I have all theirs. Makes me feel safer.
OP: Have you read any poly literature?
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Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2012 2:23 pm
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Posted: Mon Dec 31, 2012 2:33 am
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