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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 7:25 am
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 7:59 am
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 11:49 am
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I've seen a lot of individuals in the guild say things like, "Gender doesn't/shouldn't matter!". I don't believe for a moment that they intend for it to be anything negative, but it's always struck me as kind of a silly thing to say. (I feel the same way about "love is love", but that's another story.) The message they're trying to convey is actually a positive one, but it's just...poorly worded, I guess.
Gender or sex might not factor into attraction for everyone, but many of us just aren't wired that way. 3nodding We have our preferences, and even if we would like them to be blind to gender, we don't really have much (if any) say in the matter. You like who you like. Some people are strictly attracted to one sex, while others have a definite leaning, one way or the other. There's nothing wrong with that.
Anyway, again, I really don't think that our pansexual friends are trying to make anyone feel bad when they say "Gender shouldn't matter", so this isn't really much of an issue for me. Still, perhaps we can find a slogan that conveys a positive message about pansexuality, but without the negative implications about others. smile
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 12:36 pm
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 2:06 pm
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 2:18 pm
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Taeryyn I've seen a lot of individuals in the guild say things like, "Gender doesn't/shouldn't matter!". I don't believe for a moment that they intend for it to be anything negative, but it's always struck me as kind of a silly thing to say. (I feel the same way about "love is love", but that's another story.) The message they're trying to convey is actually a positive one, but it's just...poorly worded, I guess. Gender or sex might not factor into attraction for everyone, but many of us just aren't wired that way. 3nodding We have our preferences, and even if we would like them to be blind to gender, we don't really have much (if any) say in the matter. You like who you like. Some people are strictly attracted to one sex, while others have a definite leaning, one way or the other. There's nothing wrong with that. Anyway, again, I really don't think that our pansexual friends are trying to make anyone feel bad when they say "Gender shouldn't matter", so this isn't really much of an issue for me. Still, perhaps we can find a slogan that conveys a positive message about pansexuality, but without the negative implications about others. smile
Yeah, I know they probably mean well, I just worry that this will turn into something negative and become far more complicated than it should be. I would very much like to be wrong about some new movement beginning. I mean, I think people who don't desire a gender or what-have-you should embrace that the same way I embrace being female I just don't want it to turn into one of those things that started out with great intentions but quickly went too far. Like you said, I think things need to be worded better.
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 3:19 pm
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 4:40 pm
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 6:03 pm
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Taeryyn loonaboots hmm. i think a better way of wording it might be "gender doesn't matter to me." Those last two words make all the difference. 3nodding yes they do. the power of words! i love it.
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 6:57 pm
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Posted: Mon Jan 28, 2013 1:35 am
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Speaking from a pansexual point, I'd like to say this does not reflect every pansexual's point of view.
I don't discredit gender. I see it and go 'Oh, you're __________. That's cool, I'll remember that for when I'm asked.' I acknowledge it, but I don;t use it to judge how I feel about someone. Gender doesn't matter to me. I love you no matter who you are- I jugde almost purely on inner value.
On the outside, be yourself and don't be afraid. If you love colour, wear it. If you're into the whole 'cigarette and skinny jeans', rock it. If you want to be skater-chic, awesome. Just be yourself- put your spin of fashion. I like the standpoint gender doesn't matter to me. I like being inclusive, and am down for anything with anyone. Not everyone else is, and I'd never force it.
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Posted: Mon Jan 28, 2013 4:46 am
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Posted: Wed Jan 30, 2013 10:36 pm
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