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-Fancy R

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PostPosted: Tue Jan 15, 2013 4:38 pm


It all started at one of my friends house, he said, "Do any of you guys read Reddit?" I said, yes! And in truth, I do! So, he asked me "When does the narwhal eat bacon" I was in a silly mood and I decided not to answer. Let it be known that the Narwhal eats bacon at Midnight. Aye? Aye. However, my best friend thought I was lying about reading reddit and after I came home she texted me saying;
"Why did you lie about reading reddit?"
"I didn't?"
"Why didn't you answer?"
"I was feeling silly?"
"I think you're a liar."
"Do you have an insecurity with liars?"
"It really bugs me, so to think my best friend was lying..."
"I wasn't?"
"LIAR."

Strike one on my part? I didn't see anything I did wrong. I explained my logic, but apparently, that's not enough. After 3 weeks of total alienation by her, I felt this "wall" (metaphorically) was growing between us. Our talking every minute dwindled to nothing. We said, our greetings and our farewells and then later it went to us totally avoiding each other. Finally, she came up and apologized and said that lying really bugs her. I told her I understood and it resumed. I was quite pleased that things went normal.

Wrong. Apparently, she lied to me about being "okay" about the whole reddit thing. Me, being...me...I said that was horribly ironic which pissed her off.
She claims me to be lying...and then she lies to me? And then DENIES it? It made me chuckle at how hypocritical this fight had escalated.

Next day after I did this, my best friend asked me why my name wasn't on the National Honor Society list, as I was explaining that I couldn't go to any meetings and that I had family problems along with health--she told me, "Is this another lie?"
First of all, ouch.
Second of all, the hell?

I guess I'm just hurt, I've never lied to her. What motive is there for me to lie to her? I've tried to make things better but everything I say she just states back.. (repetitively), "Did you lie?"

NO. NO I DID NOT.

I did tell her one day I was tired of this, I wanted our friendship to be the way it was before all this useless drama had started. And all she said to me was...
"Is that a lie?"

After that, we went our ways. I was quite fine honestly without her in my life, although being my best friend we did exchange secrets and such..and after our dispute she began to spread rumors me as my fear is to be alone.
She tried to rid me of all my friends.

I told her not to drag them into this and all she told me was to grow up and stop acting so "immature".
I couldn't stop laughing at that notion.
I always thought she was immature in this whole fight.

A lot of people are telling me to suck it up and apologize..but I don't know if I want *THAT* kind of friend in my life.

All I'm asking for is...your opinion on the matter.
Should I keep her as a friend...or just move on with my life?

I appreciate you reading this...and just... I guess listening to a confused friend.


UPDATE AS OF: 27/02/13

My friend tried to build up my other friends to go against me, however most of my friends realized she was simply misunderstanding and that this whole fight was...stupid. Of course, my friend ended up realizing this as well/ Although, my friend is quite prideful and has yet to apologize properly to me.
My friend ended up sending me a simple message of stating:
"I've realized I have been a jerk, so I'm going to stop now."

I asked her if this was an apology, or simply a way of ended all friendship between the two of us in the end; we both agreed to be acquaintances. Although she still has not apologized, nor has she spoke to me at all for the past 3 weeks since this agreement took place.
I'm glad the drama is over--although I've lost a couple of close friends who ended taking her side and believing that I am a liar. Ah well. I suppose friends come and go. :v

I'm not being picky, but usually acquaintences talk on and off--although we seem to be complete strangers.

I do thank everyone for their input--hopefully this is end of this silly drama that has took place for literally...8 months now. ._.

Thank you again! I honestly do appreciate everyone's input on the matter. >.<
*gives everyone appreciation tea*
yum_tea

PostPosted: Tue Jan 15, 2013 8:51 pm


I don't think you should keep her as a friend.
Friends will always come and go in life.
Even though it can be sad, I guarantee someone else will come around.
You should only surround yourself with people who make you happy.
And not those who bring you down.

UnForqiving

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PostPosted: Tue Jan 15, 2013 9:11 pm


Honestly, I don't think you should keep your friendship with her. If the girl was really your friend, she wouldn't get so upset over such trivial matters. Even if she did, it'd be no big deal to keep bringing it up over and over again. sweatdrop

I'm gonna assume you're in high school and say that once you hit college years, "friends" like that will not become a part of your life and you will make new ones. Even before college years! Friends are not people who portray negative emotions towards you, but are people who are there to support you when you need it most!
PostPosted: Wed Jan 16, 2013 4:25 am


Thank you for the opinions. ;v;
I've never lost a friend to such a...stupid reason. ^^;


And, I am XD I assumed college would be better, but I'm a senior so it isn't that far away. :3
Thank you again.

-Fancy R

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PostPosted: Wed Jan 16, 2013 4:54 am


let her stew in her own s**t :v

Looks like you can't reason with her, and she would much prefer conflict over friendship. Its terrible, especially since its your last stretch of 'stable" high school life. Where everyone is suppose to make happy and sign books and blah blah.

If you really want to salvage a friendship, I would suggest trying next winter. A change in environment could let her reevaluate her behaviors (or not) and give you enough time and space to grow even stronger.

I know you're just asking about your stinkboot friend, but I wish you the best with over coming your fears. You have more control over those than the girl. wink
PostPosted: Tue Jan 22, 2013 6:37 pm


-Fancy R


No, friends come and go so just let them. Keep close to those who'll truly matter for the rest of your life like your family. emotion_dealwithit

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PostPosted: Tue Jan 22, 2013 7:00 pm


yeah i think she was being completely immature and just starting drama because she was bored a true friend would never start something so stupid because you read or don't read something i honestly think you should get all your stuff back from her and then warn your other friends that shes being a bully and how she is treating you
PostPosted: Fri Jan 25, 2013 3:29 am


I don't think you should be friends with her. If I were in your position, I know I wouldn't.  

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PostPosted: Sat Feb 02, 2013 5:49 pm


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What are you supposed to be apologizing for, exactly? I don't see what they think you did wrong.
PostPosted: Wed Feb 20, 2013 2:16 pm


You have nothing to appologize for. She sounds like she is looking for an excise to start drama and she was never a true friend to begin with. When we are young we tend to take things for granted. Me and my best friend from childhood had a 'splitting up' over her choice of husband. The silence lasted 3 years. She thought I was telling her to choose between him or me when in actuality I was concerned that she was marrying him for the wrong reasons. Not to mention he didnt deserve her.

Long story short when they got divorced she reached out to me and we have been friends ever since. In fact our relationship is even stronger and I refer to her as my sister when I talk about her. She is my favorite person ;D

Give your friend some time and perhaps she will see the error of her ways.

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PostPosted: Wed Feb 20, 2013 2:57 pm


Ouch...she sounds very insensitive. I recommend against staying friends with her. It's clear that she wasn't worth all of your efforts to make amends, especially because she wanted to become immature over something so menial and trivial. Others have said it already, but friends do come and go, like many people do. It's up to you to see who's worth the trouble of doing what you did for this person. I hope that you can move on from this and continue to enjoy your life as it was before this happened.
PostPosted: Thu Feb 21, 2013 10:05 am


-Fancy R


Um it's a simple answer... Why be friends with a girl like that who keeps thinking you're lying. I had many friends but they all left cause of similiar reasons of what your friend did. If she can't tell if you're lying or not then umm not a best friend xD

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PostPosted: Wed Feb 27, 2013 5:43 am


If your friend gets this touchy with you over something so minor, that's a bad sign.

Do you find that you have to censor yourself around her? Walk on eggshells? Be very careful what you say?

With a true friend, you may have to do that sometimes, but not all the time.

You shouldn't continually feel at risk of losing the friendship. That is just too much stress.

I would let her "fall out" of your life. Gradually stop returning calls, be vague about making plans, etc.

She may make a good acquaintance, but she probably is not the right good friend for you.

I hope things work out for you. Take care.
PostPosted: Wed Feb 27, 2013 1:08 pm


Thank you everyone for your responses. >.<
I'm honestly..speechless at all the feedback. I truly appreciate it, and if I could treat you all to some sort of tea and cookies to show my gratitude on the matter--I surely would. Hopefully the thought counts just as much. :3

The fight itself has progressed, and if anyone is interested--the first post has been updated with information on the matter.

Once again, I thank you all for your input.

yum_tea

-Fancy R

Bloblike Bunny

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