gaia_angelleft First, I'm a female. I identify as pansexual. gaia_angelright
I met the most wonderful trans girl online. We met and dated for months. I decided to take her to my senior prom. I wanted so much to show my small town southern school that there were different kinds of love out there and I wanted her to have the right to go to prom dressed in what she was comfortable in. So I lied on the small permission form I had to fill out. For the sake of...Idk all lgbt couples out there I was going to take my lover to the prom with me and she was going to wear the gorgeous dress she had picked out for herself. And so I took her. And I knew that this was the best time to break these rules because situations like this were all over the news around that time. I was right in assuming that my school did not want the publicity. No one asked us to leave. We had fun and I felt wonderful about taking a stand. And after prom I heard that people were talking but not a whole lot of it came back to me. I'm surprised that It didn't.
THREE YEARS LATER....
We married legally ( because my wife's birth certificate says male). Also we had a surprise miracle pregnancy that gave us the most beautiful baby girl that the Goddess has ever made. But I've found out from my sister (Whom I've not spoke to for 11 years) that my name was infamous in the halls of my high school. What I did was not as unnoticed as I had thought. In fact they made stricter rules to prevent this sort of event from ever happening again. So in a sense....I've made it even harder for people like me to have that perfect prom experience. I, in fact did not make a good impact on these close minded southern people. I can only imagine how much other glbt couples there hate me. On top of that my sister told me that If my Wife continued to transition that " Your daughter will go to school and be ridiculed for the rest of her life. That or hide both of you from the world because of her shame." I thought about that...and I believe it. I never wanted to make things harder on my child. But there it is. I regret that she'll never be able to walk around in my home town with out the possiblity that someone might find out that I'm her mother. Going to the same school I went to is OUT. I don't want to have to leave my family just so she can go to school. Though she's so young now I have some time to think about it. Also I don't want my wife to feel like she must hide herself (or detransition?) just to ensure that our child isn't made fun of.
I suppose what I'm asking is did I make the right choice? Or for advice. But More than that I wanted to get my story out.
If you have similar stories please feel free to share. emotion_bigheart