I'm sorry. I'm never really one to vent or look for advice...it's just that I'm not all that experience with relationships. Also, my family is filled up of people who have no idea how to run a proper relationship or to have an open mind. My step mom is stubborn on the idea that my boyfriend would replace me for a girl with looks and no personality in an instant, so she's obviously no real help.
Right, onto the issue. I'm sorry if you're reading this. I find it hard to talk to others in my life about issues like this because they won't be patient enough to listen to the entire story. So I have been in a relationship with my best friend since February 8th (he believes it's the 10th that's our anniversary, but since he always says stuff on the supposed anniversary, I'm okay with it). I've known him since my freshman year, and we had a lot of interesting coincidental paths, which is funny considering we were raised in completely different towns and counties. His dad is best friends with my dad's supervisor at work. His mom worked with my grandma. His brother is friends with my long time friend. We were both members of the same clubs. A lot of freaky, fate-like stuff. I don't believe in fate, though, so I prefer to say "coincidence."
I kinda also have this thing. For one reason or another, people cannot lie to me and get away with it. I just...know somehow. It's more effective with people I know closely, but yeah. So I first found out that he liked me in my freshman year when he told my friend with me in the room (but he didn't see me). However, I still had a lot of personal problems, and he was still nervous about it, so nothing happened that year.
Sophomore year came about and he asked me out the day after 9/11/12. I didn't realize it because of the way he worded it, so I said yes. Then, after a while, it hit me, and I became more shy around him. He was also nervous since he was only in long-distance relationships, so we quickly split up. We were still really good friends. We got to know each other better, became closer, and got back together.
Ever since, it has been smooth sailing. I met his parents. He got to know my family better. He introduced me to his internet friends on FB. I let him come closer to understanding how my brain works. Everything is great. He became my first kiss, too, as well as the first boy that I loved. I know this might be a simple high school sweetheart thing, but he already seems to have his mind set on marrying me...or at least to wait until marriage before, eh, stuff. But overall, this may sound cheesy, but we kinda do fit for each other. I admire his courage to always establish his opinion and philosophy (he wants to be a philosopher) and he finds my spazzy personality as cute. Though a lot of people just see him as ignorant and me as socially awkward.
The problem comes here. He decided to go on a trip to Europe with my teacher as a school trip. He ended up being the only student going. The only thing that scared me was the fact that my teacher's daughter, a freshman girl who has a pretty face, was going too. I'm not normally a jealous person. His mom, brother, and me drove him to the airport to see him off, and that was that. I'd see him July 2nd.
Before he left, he asked me to keep in touch with his friends online. I, being a rather easy to please type of girl, agreed. I then began to talk to his friends. The thing: all but one were girls. I saw no problem in it, except for two of them were his long-distanced exes. At least I think two. One says she had a "one night fling" which probably meant wither with him on the chat or his RPC with the same name as him. The other I know for sure because, when I first met him, he said he had an ex named..."Teto" for privacy sake. I talked to them. The "one night fling" girl was obviously just that, considering she wasn't the type he was into. As for his ex, she was like me but also very different from me in extreme aspects. Like how she is more confident, loves yaoi, can be rude unintentionally (she burned my favorite manga), and is a very scary fangirl. She's nice, though. But she doesn't properly take suit of "I'm his girlfriend now, so I get first dibs on hugging him" stuff. I'm a more tolerant individual, luckily, so I don't really say anything about it, or the fact that she tried to ask him out when she knew I was dating him (before I joined their little group).
Getting over exes, I should get to my problem in a more specific manner. After a lot of talking to his "friends" and hearing a lot from my family, would it be possible that he would want to dump me after returning? Maye I've just been hearing too much negative remarks from my step mom? Should I be worried about Teto's closeness to my boyfriend? I'm sorry girls, but I just feel a little lost lately, and especially now that he's coming back in a few days. I'm just hoping for an honest opinion...
Right, onto the issue. I'm sorry if you're reading this. I find it hard to talk to others in my life about issues like this because they won't be patient enough to listen to the entire story. So I have been in a relationship with my best friend since February 8th (he believes it's the 10th that's our anniversary, but since he always says stuff on the supposed anniversary, I'm okay with it). I've known him since my freshman year, and we had a lot of interesting coincidental paths, which is funny considering we were raised in completely different towns and counties. His dad is best friends with my dad's supervisor at work. His mom worked with my grandma. His brother is friends with my long time friend. We were both members of the same clubs. A lot of freaky, fate-like stuff. I don't believe in fate, though, so I prefer to say "coincidence."
I kinda also have this thing. For one reason or another, people cannot lie to me and get away with it. I just...know somehow. It's more effective with people I know closely, but yeah. So I first found out that he liked me in my freshman year when he told my friend with me in the room (but he didn't see me). However, I still had a lot of personal problems, and he was still nervous about it, so nothing happened that year.
Sophomore year came about and he asked me out the day after 9/11/12. I didn't realize it because of the way he worded it, so I said yes. Then, after a while, it hit me, and I became more shy around him. He was also nervous since he was only in long-distance relationships, so we quickly split up. We were still really good friends. We got to know each other better, became closer, and got back together.
Ever since, it has been smooth sailing. I met his parents. He got to know my family better. He introduced me to his internet friends on FB. I let him come closer to understanding how my brain works. Everything is great. He became my first kiss, too, as well as the first boy that I loved. I know this might be a simple high school sweetheart thing, but he already seems to have his mind set on marrying me...or at least to wait until marriage before, eh, stuff. But overall, this may sound cheesy, but we kinda do fit for each other. I admire his courage to always establish his opinion and philosophy (he wants to be a philosopher) and he finds my spazzy personality as cute. Though a lot of people just see him as ignorant and me as socially awkward.
The problem comes here. He decided to go on a trip to Europe with my teacher as a school trip. He ended up being the only student going. The only thing that scared me was the fact that my teacher's daughter, a freshman girl who has a pretty face, was going too. I'm not normally a jealous person. His mom, brother, and me drove him to the airport to see him off, and that was that. I'd see him July 2nd.
Before he left, he asked me to keep in touch with his friends online. I, being a rather easy to please type of girl, agreed. I then began to talk to his friends. The thing: all but one were girls. I saw no problem in it, except for two of them were his long-distanced exes. At least I think two. One says she had a "one night fling" which probably meant wither with him on the chat or his RPC with the same name as him. The other I know for sure because, when I first met him, he said he had an ex named..."Teto" for privacy sake. I talked to them. The "one night fling" girl was obviously just that, considering she wasn't the type he was into. As for his ex, she was like me but also very different from me in extreme aspects. Like how she is more confident, loves yaoi, can be rude unintentionally (she burned my favorite manga), and is a very scary fangirl. She's nice, though. But she doesn't properly take suit of "I'm his girlfriend now, so I get first dibs on hugging him" stuff. I'm a more tolerant individual, luckily, so I don't really say anything about it, or the fact that she tried to ask him out when she knew I was dating him (before I joined their little group).
Getting over exes, I should get to my problem in a more specific manner. After a lot of talking to his "friends" and hearing a lot from my family, would it be possible that he would want to dump me after returning? Maye I've just been hearing too much negative remarks from my step mom? Should I be worried about Teto's closeness to my boyfriend? I'm sorry girls, but I just feel a little lost lately, and especially now that he's coming back in a few days. I'm just hoping for an honest opinion...
