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 Posted: Thu Feb 20, 2014 12:53 am
Okay.. like the title says, lately I've been really stressed and really scared... I need.. I don't know. .. advice I guess? But I don't trust many people and I'm afraid to ask my mom about it. Not because I don't trust her, its just hard for me to open up and talk to people face to face. Okay any ways the reason I'm so stressed and scared is because I'm scared to get pregnant. I'm 17 and just got my first boyfriend (of 3 months now) who is really sweet and I feel comfortable being with him. Anyways on Valentines day I was with him (and I'm pretty sure you know what happened), and since then I've been stressed. It would have been the 3rd time we had intercourse and all times we were safe. Being each other's firsts we are both scared, mostly me, about pregnancy. On Friday he asked to see how it felt without a condom and well I started saying no and told him how scared I was. But he insisted it would be fine since he would just put it in and pull out right after. Well that happened. Since that moment I've been terrified... I love kids and everything but I can't handle the thought of being pregnant. All this is doing is making me depressed and I'm anxiously waiting for March hoping to get my period. If I don't get it.. I'm going to have a major breakdown.. I've recently stopped doing self harm but if this, my worst nightmare comes true, all that is going to come right back.. I'm turning 18 next month, my future is planned and a kid is not there until I'm older. It's been on my mind so much.. I don't want to be another one of the "pregnant teens" and I know how disappointed my parents would be because I grew up watching my nieces since I was 12 because my sister made the same mistake. I always told my mom I'm never having kids till I'm older and ready. But this whole thing is really scaring me and I can't handle it.. I guess the point of this was to get everything out and see what other girls think.. please no judgemental comments.. I'm already stressed and depressed enough with school and this...
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Posted: Thu Feb 20, 2014 12:57 am
It's like 2 am and I can't sleep because of this on my mind.. I already feel the urge to cut but I'm trying to ignore it... Plus school is stressing me out... it's too much... ugh.. emo
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Posted: Thu Feb 20, 2014 3:52 am
By your description of "pulling in and out", do you mean that he penetrated you until he was close to orgasming? Or he just (quite literally) went in, and immediately out? Either way, precum always has a chance of holding sperm, so be careful of that. It is not likely you are pregnant if he did not blow his load directly inside of you, but there is always a chance.
If you are so concerned about it, as it sounds like it, get a pregnancy test. There should be over-the-counter ones at your local drug store, such as CVS Pharmacy or Rite Aid.
Also, please keep in mind, not only is a condom used to prevent pregnancy, but it is also used so that STDs do not transfer. Please stay safe in the future!
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Posted: Thu Feb 20, 2014 12:52 pm
Ayukura is right, there is a chance that you could have gotten pregnant, but you more than likely didn't. As long as he didn't ejaculate inside you, there is a low chance of pregnancy. As Ayukura said, the only way to know for sure is to take a pregnancy test after you believe you've missed your period. Stressing about this can very well make your period late on it's own, though, so try your best to stay as calm as you can. I know it's normal to worry, but you'll really mess up your body stressing this heavily over it. Just take each day like you normally would, then when it comes time for your period to start, just keep tabs on it. I'd recommend talking this out with your mom so she's at least prepared for any outcome and to be able to help you through it.
On another note, in the future, please, please do not let anyone convince you to do something you do not want to do. Your boyfriend should not have swayed you into having sex without a condom, as it shows he cared more about what he wanted to try than the fact that you were not comfortable with it. He needs to care about keeping the both of you safe just as much as you do. It's normal to want to know what something feels like, I understand that, but neither of you are in a position to do something like that. Please be safe next time and consider talking to your boyfriend about not trying to persuade you on how you want things done.
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Posted: Thu Feb 20, 2014 3:46 pm
i apologize if i sound a bit harsh here...
but you see, sex shouldn't be that srtessfull.
it should be a beautiful experience between two people who share intimacy, and who enjoy it physically as much MENTALLY.
if your mind is giving you all this doubts and anxiety is maybe a way to tell you that you are probably not ready.
as simple as that.
doing it at the cost of your mental health it's simply wrong.
and i'm sorry to add this, but an idiot that looks at your terrified face and still insists on doing it only "to see how it felt" is surely less ready than you.
love is respect, he should show more attention for your feelings.
and so should do you for yourself.
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