I addressed the general problem of my situation in another forum but I came here to get more direct help. I'm 18 now but at 15 I experienced an unplanned pregnancy that I didn't discover until the end of my first trimester and ended in a miscarriage because at the time, i was too unhealthy and my body could not stand the stresses of my addiction and trying to quit cold turkey on top of being pregnant and only 15. It's a tragic event that has left me pretty hurt. It doesn't help that since then I've basically been Momma (Even been accidentally called Momma!) By two little girls. I also have a lovely little man on the way (No actual relation but to him I'll be Auntie Steffers) and watching her go through the pregnancy at 17 has been tough but I've become attached to her. i'm still struggling a lot on my own with the feelings from my loss and the children around me have both helped me heal and kind of hurt me too. Since getting into this new relationship, little talks about the future and stuff have come up. We both are set we want a little family here in the future and we've had a broken condom pregnancy scare. Whenever these conversations come up or our scare happened, I felt like I should have opened up to him about the miscarriage although in a way, all I want to do is forget about it.
My questions are these: When you miscarry a child, are you supposed to keep it with you or is it wrong to try and forget? Are you supposed to disclose this with your significant other? And if you are, how do you do it?
this is a man that I see myself with for a long time. We aren't jumping to get married or start a family any time soon. We hope to be together for five or so more years and start that chapter and this bump is something that I've wondered about. Thank you for all your help!
My questions are these: When you miscarry a child, are you supposed to keep it with you or is it wrong to try and forget? Are you supposed to disclose this with your significant other? And if you are, how do you do it?
this is a man that I see myself with for a long time. We aren't jumping to get married or start a family any time soon. We hope to be together for five or so more years and start that chapter and this bump is something that I've wondered about. Thank you for all your help!