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Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2014 7:11 pm
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Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2014 8:19 pm
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Posted: Thu Sep 18, 2014 12:06 am
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Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2014 10:35 pm
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Posted: Wed Nov 05, 2014 12:52 am
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Sorry if I sound harsh, but domestic abuse scares me. I haven't been in an abusive relationship, but I have witnessed and read a lot about it. So, in short, my answer to your question is all abuse is bad. Even if it's just their fist offence. You can try to talk it out, but I would never feel comfortable with that person ever again. There's nothing to stop them from doing it again.
If you want to read my rant here you go: >A lot of girls see a guy who is "rough around the edges" and say "I'll just clean him up!" But it doesn't work like that. They will only change when THEY want to. You can't inspire change in someone. It needs to be self-motivated. Otherwise, it's easy to falter. > Any abuse from a significant other is a no-no ESPECIALLY if you plan to have a future with them. Their domestic violence could focus on your children. We are talking child abuse, ladies. If he could raise a hand to you, the one who he is supposed to love, nurture, care for, and who he made a vow to... what is to stop him from hurting your children? NOTHING. Any children you raise with them will have a greater likelihood of developing abusive tendencies by watching your husband/boyfriend. Thus, creating a cycle of abuse. >I can't stand that. An endless cycle of abuse because "I can't leave him." That sounds more like pity than love. And yes you can leave him. No, it won't be easy but it is the right thing to do. I'm sorry, but I love my future babies more. >These are only a few of the problems I have with this issue. There are plenty more. >Again, sorry for coming off harsh, but domestic abuse is terrifying. >There are plenty of fish in the sea, get on eHarmony or some dating website and meet someone who won't ruin love for you. Technology, huns, we live in the future!
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Posted: Wed Nov 05, 2014 8:30 pm
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XxAriaxX My question is what would you do if your boyfriend or husband abuse you for the first time 1-physically 2-verbally 3-sexually ? I was shocked when my friend said her ex-boyfriend was verbally abusive towards her, she always told me all the great things he did, but not what she was suffering. I asked her why she didn't leave him sooner, she said love made her blind she thought about the good times and that they can be just like before he was mean to her. It made me think what would I do if one day my boyfriend hits me, or shows disrespect or forces me to do something... Would I talk to him, to make it clear that I cannot tolerate any form of abuse ? Or Would I just break up and give no second chance? I often told myself to never tolerate any form of abuse, but when you love someone, can this act remove all the love you had ?
It is important for her to realize the situation she is in and the dangers that will come from if she stays. Confronting him may not be the best thing for you to do especially if he is abusive, this may cause him to lash out even more. I highly recommend that you try to get your friend introduced to a family violence center or refer her to a domestic violence task force within your community. Just know that she may be resilient and believe that there is nothing wrong with the relationship. If she is showing you bruises or injuries that she is receiving from him, take pictures. Those can be used later if she wishes to press charges or to receive restraining orders if she does break it off with him. If you have any more questions or concerns, please feel free to message me or quote me (I recently went to a domestic violence conference and learned a lot from it; I highly recommend researching Dottie Davis http://dottiedavis.com/ and for local agencies that can help you and your friend) I hope this helps. heart
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Posted: Fri Nov 07, 2014 11:36 am
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Posted: Fri Nov 07, 2014 1:30 pm
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