Just to save a bit of backstory and explaining,
my mother and I do not have a good relationship.
Back in August, she kicked me out of the house.
I ended up going to live with my dad, and have since started therapy once
again for a few major things: depression, social anxiety, among others--
mainly, I have issues driving --depression and social anxiety being the two big
things. My social anxiety is crippling, and thankfully, my depression is so much
better. I've since been allowed back in my mother's home,
but things are still tense.
Anyway, she has had this boyfriend for almost a year now, I think.
He's nice, sometimes.
But he struggles with understanding that, one, I have a good amount of anxiety,
and absolutely hate being teased.
Hate it.
I especially hate it when I'm driving and he's in the car.
He basically gets on my a** about everything I do, including but not limited to:
my driving skills, my reclusiveness, my online friends, and, of course,
my love of gaming. As many times as I have attempted to explain... yeah,
it just doesn't work. He's even gone so far as to deny I have social anxiety,
and I'm just being "lazy", and a "typical teenager".
I have been repeatedly lied to about events.
In case no one understands, I am absolutely terrified of crowds,
and I really feel uncomfortable around people that I don't know.
I can't explain it. Anyway, this past Thanksgiving, I was told that it
would be just him, my mom, and I.
Which was total bullshit. We went to a small festival, and we were two
hours away from home. When I told my mom that I wasn't comfortable, she
basically told me to suck it up.
His harassment while I'm driving has brought me close to tears.
And it doesn't help it's nearly winter, the roads are icy, and I can't focus on him
and the road and everything else going on at once. I've tried to play music,
and he either turns it off or changes the song or takes my phone off the dock.
He backseat drives me, he tells me I'm doing everything wrong, and I did say
that I'm scared of driving as it is?
Mom, again, doesn't do jack s**t.
He also jokes about abusing my kitten.
My three month old kitten who likes to stalk feet.
He has said that my kitten does not belong inside, and should be left outside
to freeze and starve like all cats deserve.
He tells me this, to my face, and laughs.
And when I am clearly not amused, and leave the area,
he talks back to me like a three year old having a tantrum.
I've told my mother multiple times to tell him to please stop.
I've begged her, since she is apparently the only one he will listen to.
He sure as hell doesn't listen to me.
She won't ******** do it. She says to "just get over it" and "it's what he does".
There are times when she even goes so far as to back him up.
I'm at an absolute breaking point.
I've yet to lift a finger to it, mostly because the last time I defended myself,
I was yelled at and ridiculed and called a brat.
The last thing I want to do is to have a bad relationship with him, since my
mother really likes him, and I don't want to separate them. It seems unfair,
and I won't do that to her.
Anyway, I need some advice. Desperately.
I don't know how to handle the situation anymore.
my mother and I do not have a good relationship.
Back in August, she kicked me out of the house.
I ended up going to live with my dad, and have since started therapy once
again for a few major things: depression, social anxiety, among others--
mainly, I have issues driving --depression and social anxiety being the two big
things. My social anxiety is crippling, and thankfully, my depression is so much
better. I've since been allowed back in my mother's home,
but things are still tense.
Anyway, she has had this boyfriend for almost a year now, I think.
He's nice, sometimes.
But he struggles with understanding that, one, I have a good amount of anxiety,
and absolutely hate being teased.
Hate it.
I especially hate it when I'm driving and he's in the car.
He basically gets on my a** about everything I do, including but not limited to:
my driving skills, my reclusiveness, my online friends, and, of course,
my love of gaming. As many times as I have attempted to explain... yeah,
it just doesn't work. He's even gone so far as to deny I have social anxiety,
and I'm just being "lazy", and a "typical teenager".
I have been repeatedly lied to about events.
In case no one understands, I am absolutely terrified of crowds,
and I really feel uncomfortable around people that I don't know.
I can't explain it. Anyway, this past Thanksgiving, I was told that it
would be just him, my mom, and I.
Which was total bullshit. We went to a small festival, and we were two
hours away from home. When I told my mom that I wasn't comfortable, she
basically told me to suck it up.
His harassment while I'm driving has brought me close to tears.
And it doesn't help it's nearly winter, the roads are icy, and I can't focus on him
and the road and everything else going on at once. I've tried to play music,
and he either turns it off or changes the song or takes my phone off the dock.
He backseat drives me, he tells me I'm doing everything wrong, and I did say
that I'm scared of driving as it is?
Mom, again, doesn't do jack s**t.
He also jokes about abusing my kitten.
My three month old kitten who likes to stalk feet.
He has said that my kitten does not belong inside, and should be left outside
to freeze and starve like all cats deserve.
He tells me this, to my face, and laughs.
And when I am clearly not amused, and leave the area,
he talks back to me like a three year old having a tantrum.
I've told my mother multiple times to tell him to please stop.
I've begged her, since she is apparently the only one he will listen to.
He sure as hell doesn't listen to me.
She won't ******** do it. She says to "just get over it" and "it's what he does".
There are times when she even goes so far as to back him up.
I'm at an absolute breaking point.
I've yet to lift a finger to it, mostly because the last time I defended myself,
I was yelled at and ridiculed and called a brat.
The last thing I want to do is to have a bad relationship with him, since my
mother really likes him, and I don't want to separate them. It seems unfair,
and I won't do that to her.
Anyway, I need some advice. Desperately.
I don't know how to handle the situation anymore.
