Ladies ladies, I would like to discuss something with you. It's about the word dependency.
de⋅pend⋅en⋅cy /dɪˈpɛndənsi/ [di-pen-duhn-see] –noun, plural -cies. 1. the state of being dependent; dependence.
The reason I'm saying "ladies" in reference to this word, is because I've never really seen it with guys before. There's only one guy I've ever seen have a complete and total dependency on his girlfriend, and that was my ex. And if that was a nightmare for me, then I can only imagine how many guys feel with girls completely dependent on them. Let me share with you what I mean.
The number one problem I see in a majority of my girl friend's relationships, the problem that pisses me off the most, is how every single time their guy disappears for literally, five minutes, they FREAK out and say their life sucks and get all depressed and crap. I used to know one girl that literally cried for hours and hours and hours at night while her boyfriend was away asleep, and she used to wake him up JUST so she could be with him. Can you believe that? Needless to say, they aren't together anymore. He got too sleep deprived and she started pulling him away from his life. You see where I'm going with this?
Ladies, I'm going to exaggerate this for you. DON'T. GET. OVERLY. DEPENDENT. ON. YOUR. GUY. It's one of the WORST things you can do in a relationship! You've got to give him his space, you can't have your head stuck up his a** every minute of every day. Not only does it get annoying for your boyfriend, it gets annoying for your friends as well. As for GUYS getting overly dependent on your ladies: grow up. You're supposed to be the man in the relationship, not the sissy.
Now don't take any of that the wrong way. You can still break down to your respective partner and ask to be held, etcetc. You can ask for them to stay a little longer. But don't burst into deep annoying sobs when they're gone. They have lives too, and you should also have a life away from them. If you're really wanting it to be long-term and wanting it to work out, don't get overly dependent on them. This could also mean don't get obsessed, but if I start seeing obsessions as a problem among my friends. I'm going to call it out here, too.
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de⋅pend⋅en⋅cy /dɪˈpɛndənsi/ [di-pen-duhn-see] –noun, plural -cies. 1. the state of being dependent; dependence.
The reason I'm saying "ladies" in reference to this word, is because I've never really seen it with guys before. There's only one guy I've ever seen have a complete and total dependency on his girlfriend, and that was my ex. And if that was a nightmare for me, then I can only imagine how many guys feel with girls completely dependent on them. Let me share with you what I mean.
The number one problem I see in a majority of my girl friend's relationships, the problem that pisses me off the most, is how every single time their guy disappears for literally, five minutes, they FREAK out and say their life sucks and get all depressed and crap. I used to know one girl that literally cried for hours and hours and hours at night while her boyfriend was away asleep, and she used to wake him up JUST so she could be with him. Can you believe that? Needless to say, they aren't together anymore. He got too sleep deprived and she started pulling him away from his life. You see where I'm going with this?
Ladies, I'm going to exaggerate this for you. DON'T. GET. OVERLY. DEPENDENT. ON. YOUR. GUY. It's one of the WORST things you can do in a relationship! You've got to give him his space, you can't have your head stuck up his a** every minute of every day. Not only does it get annoying for your boyfriend, it gets annoying for your friends as well. As for GUYS getting overly dependent on your ladies: grow up. You're supposed to be the man in the relationship, not the sissy.
Now don't take any of that the wrong way. You can still break down to your respective partner and ask to be held, etcetc. You can ask for them to stay a little longer. But don't burst into deep annoying sobs when they're gone. They have lives too, and you should also have a life away from them. If you're really wanting it to be long-term and wanting it to work out, don't get overly dependent on them. This could also mean don't get obsessed, but if I start seeing obsessions as a problem among my friends. I'm going to call it out here, too.
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