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TakuniChan
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I'm a terrible girlfriend, I think...Rambling, beware.
Hmm, yesh.
So finally, finally I'm with someone...
But there's still a problem.
I am terrible in the ways of the girlfriend. I'm not at all good at this.
I'm still a bit skeptical about love and stuff.
I'm afraid that if I open my heart to him, I'll be crushed.
...
I really wish I didn't think like this.
When I see my friends get all mushy, I still think that its stupid to let their hearts be so open with them.
And then when I get mushy, I suddenly reel myself in again and close the doors again. I'm still afraid.
I'm still trying to let myself go with this. But I can't!
Things are so different now. Someone's telling me they love me. Not in a family or friend way but...
In that way.
I love it.
I love it love it love it.
I love him.
And I can't even show it. I try to, but I just mess up in some odd way.
Is it horrible? Is it horrible how I am still afraid of being hurt by this? Taking this chance?
I know, I shouldn't be thinking about him this much. Lord knows he prolly doesn't think this much about me.
AAaaaagh!! I'm so afraid I'm going to mess this up somehow, like I might get him the wrong gift for his birthday or something or say something wrong or kiss him wrong or AAAAAAHHHHHH!!!
This is totally different from my past relationships...Thats for sure.
...Ok, bottom line is, I don't want to loose him again. I've known him for 6 years.
We've been friends.
Hes been my best guy friend.
My crush.
And now hes...Hes my boyfriend. And hopefully something more.
No, I don't know if he'll be interested in me for long. I don't know. But...
I know this;
I love him.
At least, I think this is love. I don't want to be like those arrogant teenagers that go, 'Ooooh, we're so in love and we had sex so we're gonna get maaaried and blahblahblah and he purposed and blablabla!! KAWAIIIDESUNEEEE~!!!'
(No, we did not have...You know. Sex. >_< I'm saving myself for marriage.)
but...I still have that small hope that we will be together. I'm being idealistic here, because I've seen so many relationships that my friends have had that have gone downhill because of their rushing to 'be together forever', if you know what I mean.
Plus, I don't think neither him or I are ready for marriage. Heh.
Ugh. I shouldn't talk about this!
No, no, no!!
But...I still kind of get jealous when I see my friends with their boyfriends (Ex. my friends Ali and Laur, or Sami, or Blakie...&_& I'm sorry you guys! I know, I'm terrible...) because its like...They know how to be good girlfriends.
Seriously!! And when I see them with their significant other, I practically think; 'Now, why can't I be like that?!'
I can't help it.
I'm not the normal girlfriend, thats for sure...
I don't like talking on the phone.
I fail at pleasing him.
T3T he could have any girl in the world...
And he chose me.
And God, I am so happy he did.
I hope I can return all the things hes done for me and make him happy.
Maybe....Maybe someday I, can be the girlfriend I and he would want me to be.
I'm not going to rush anything, because I want to go SLOW. Does that sound so bad? I've been hurt alot before, thinking like that arrogant teenager, you know? And then it was like...My heart hardened to that. It got idealistic. I got idealistic. I just hope he understands that...I hope he feels the same way I do, and its not his...You-know-what doing the talking. Heh. HEH. HEHEHE, p***s. HAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAA. Oh, but I am so immature for everything else...






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Evil Zombie Girl
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comment Commented on: Tue Aug 11, 2009 @ 03:31am

Okay Linds
I might not know a lot about being a good girlfriend or guys x.x
But the reason why I ever had one becasue I dont take chances EVEERRRRR
Just stay home and shelter myself form life
you dont wanna end Like me because down this road is sad and lonely.
If you really love him you have to take that chance and open yourself.
OR YOU WILL NEVER EVER FIND OUT WOMEN!!!
Love is a risk we all have to take SOMEDAY
you are going to get hurt by someone
its a given
but you learn and grow form it
Just take the change linds xD
and Love isn't perfect that's one of the reasons why its so Beautiful but DEADLY

WHO CARES IF YOU DONT LIKE TALKING ON THE PHONE
face to face is so much better
If he is dating you
I am sure that you are pleasing me if you are not
we wouldn't be dating you SILLLYYYYYYY
and is he pleasing you? is he a good boyfriend to you/

god I cried writing this X.X
I am a*****e x,x
*falls*


comment Commented on: Sat Aug 22, 2009 @ 07:25pm
Zombie said quite a few things that I wanted to say.
Love is taking a chance.
Letting another person see you for who you are and hoping they accept you as yourself.
There may be pain, but isn't it better to have loved and lost than not loved at all?
Taking chances is one of the ways that our lives become so much better
Because once you've made enough mistakes and learned, everything falls together.
This is mostly about opening yourself up to him.

As for love itself:
Go ahead and take it slow!
I've been with Max for four months
I haven't once said that I loved him besides the I love you in a friend way
(You know a bit about my last relationship. I'm scared to fall in love again as well.)
And I think it may still be a while until we get to that point
I mean, every relationship is different
Please don't think you need to conform to most of teenage society and think that you need to love the guy you are with right away.
Take your time
Get to know him
Have fun
And pretty soon, it will happen
And it will be glorious

Love is like that "Coulda had a V-8" commercial
You are minding your own business one day
Eating something that is nice, greasy, calorie-filled, mood-lifting, and just delicious
(That's spending time with your boyfriend)
Then, out of no where, someone slaps your forehead!
(That's love, coming at you so fast you had no idea where it came from.)
But, love doesn't tell you that you need a V-8

I hope you got that
It was the best thing I could come up with

So, summarize what I said:

If you really want to, open yourself up
Don't do it all at once
But, maybe give him some random fact about your life and personalit every now and then

Don't think you need to fall in love right now
Take your time to get to know him
Have fun together

Oh! And a few more bits of advice:
Keep all communications open.
Be as honest as you can with the other person
And ask them to do the same

Trust is also the key
Learn to trust them
But, most of all, trust yourself.
Your heart will know what to do.


Wow! Lots of advice
Sorry for it being so long.
I just had a lot of stuff to say I guess
You'll do fine, Linds!
I know you will




BeautifulMidniteRose
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Blakaize
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comment Commented on: Sun Jan 10, 2010 @ 07:11pm
You're gonna be a fine girlfriend. Just wing it. It's what I did with my fiance. It's better when you chill.


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