I'm a Nice Guy. I'll be honest, it's not easy I know alot of women aren't into nice guys anymore. On Deviantart I made a comment about being a nice guy and was given a link that led to a 5 ways list.
I was a few of the ways what the guy had written down. I can't help it though, I grew up during a generation that held onto their purity. I was fed morals and everything growing up, even in school. It's a part of me that I can't really get rid of. Reading the article hurt a little to be honest, I don't like being steamrolled like that. I know most of the world wants to though.
Nice Guys aren't popular anymore, I know that. Yes I'm cautious and a bit scared of sex and a relationship, yes I'm shy, patient, and I recently found out that I have a slight Ausenburgs (or however it's spelled) Dissability, so I'm a little slow. I'm not perfect, but it's not like I don't want to have sex or love someone.
I've gotten my heart broken, so I just want to make sure the next real relationship I'm in lasts. I'm 28 so my mind is also shifting to marriage and starting a family. I'm a late bloomer, but I'm comfortable with who I am. I know my limitations and how far I can go.
I know I can't compete with most guys. Most guys today are much more manly and easy to find someone or have sex. I've strung the lines of 'wanting someone perfect' and such when I was younger, but not anymore. All I honestly want is a girl who's gentle and patient.
Not a supermodel, not some 'perfect' trophy wife, or some badass chick that I won't be able to catch up to. I've learned the hard way that 'perfect girls' don't exhist. When you're young though, you're stupid. lol I'm a Christian so I want a girl who's a Christian as well, that's probably the only thing I want honestly.
I know, blah blah blah Christians are Lame, Hypocrits, alot of us are now and I apologize for that. Yet this topic isn't about my Faith in God, so I'll stop right here. Maybe one day I'll share about my Faith if people are truely interested, but now isn't the time. sweatdrop
I'm not perfect either. Just because I've got a tender heart doesn't make me better or perfect than other guys. It just means that I do things a bit slower than they do, which I have to ask, is that so bad?
What do women want anymore? I honestly don't know because right now women are frustrating and confusing. While I may not be upfront and flashy as most men are, I've got a pretty firm anchor and respect for who I am. I'm patient and take my time. If that makes me boring then well, look for the guy that will dance with his pants always down for you if you want that.
I don't want to sound mean or rude, but that's how I feel sometimes. I get so confused with the media these days. I'm always hearing female singers sing songs about wanting to hurt their cheating boyfriends, then will turn around and sing about wanting real love.
Nice Guys and Normal Guys have their good and bad qualities. I'm not a shiny prince charming, hillbilly cowboy with tatoos, rich black rapper, or whatever else most women fantasize about anymore. The fact that they've picked up the whole I want to be saved mentallity is a little annoying.
Instead of settling for someone who isn't perfect, but loves them anyway, they raise the bar so high because they want the 'perfect' man that will come in and save them. Save them from what? I would like to know that honestly.
Anyway, to close this or else I'll keep rambling forever, I'm not upset that I'm a nice guy. I am who I am and I can't change that. If women don't like nice men anymore then that's their problem not mine. If they find me boring because I'm not trying to force them into a bed or if I seem bitter, which I'm not by the way, I'm sorry. Think about it, would you be bitter if no one gave you the time of day because they hated you for what you were?
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