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me member My good friends, I find the concept of chivalry in our today's society to be something of a joke. A mockery, if you will. While the fight for womens equal rights is a just and noble one, and even today it is a fight, I find that the idea of feminism has far overstepped itself.
Whether you believe in Creationism or Evolution, one thing is for certain, the male sex is the more physically dominant of the two sexes. Having been designed or evolved to be taller with larger muscles and a capacity for life and death split second decisions, which surely a woman could learn but are more a part of who a man is, it has alway been the role of the male to be the protector, to stand in the face of danger that his wife or young children remain safe. The damsel in distress and knight in shining armor, if you will.
However, do not believe for a moment that there is only one side to this coin. Women have come to rely on the strength of their men in many facets of day to day living, and it continues even to this day. The age old test of strength in the pickle jar, asking their man to reach the top shelf, or do heavy lifting. It is my argument that, from my experience, men and women are generally happy with this arrangement, but it does go a bit deeper than that.
Above the idea of physical dominance is the idea of traditional roles in relationships which have slipped far to the wayside, almost forgotten. I am a firm believer that men and women should have equal say in certain aspects, i.e. naming children, what house to buy, where to go for an anniversary dinner, but there are other small aspects of the relationship which a man should stay in full dominant control.
Again, in my experience, it has come true time and again that women push at me. They test my limits of tolerance simply for the sake of testing me, and when they overstep the boundary, the majority of the time they back peddle quickly, eyelashes fluttering in supplication. The other option is they stand there defiantly, waiting for my response. It is in times like these where the idea and practice of dominance must be maintained, though you must remember to choose your battles wisely. To back down is to admit defeat on the subject of control, no matter the object of the confrontation. For a man this is disastrous, but for a woman it is truly the natural way of things.
Most of the time a stern look and a warning are enough to maintain your dominance, but on occasion the defiance will remain in full force, in which case more drastic measures are called for. It is on these rare occasions where I have found corporal punishment to be quite prudent, what some might call, "a good old fashioned spanking." To be sure there is a certain amount of indignity involved in the process, but that is soon overcome by more pertinent issues, such as the thought of sitting. More than once I have used this tool to great effect, and, indeed, instead of serving to separate us, it has brought us closer together.
In her mind this served as a reminder that I am strong enough to, "keep her in line," but more importantly, I am strong enough to protect her.
I realize that this topic has become quite long, and I will not hesitate to paraphrase.
1. Men and women are generally happy with traditional domestic arrangements.
2. It is necessary, and even expected, for a man to maintain his control in the relationship if he is challenged by his woman.
3. In extreme examples of challenge, it may become necessary to use dramatic techniques to ensure there is little to no question as to who is in charge.
So then the question is whether or not I am, for the most part, correct in these assumptions.
Please forgive any error in syntax or grammar, I become quite impassioned when speaking of this subject, and in my excitement I may have overlooked something.
My husband and I are equal in that we both work to make our lives together function properly so the family doesn't wind up in the streets, but he makes all final decisions and thats fine with me.
However, he doesn't make all the decisions until he's talked it over with me. Sometimes when we try to solve a problem we'll discuss it for days so that we come to a full understanding of the situation so that we can in turn make the best decision possible for our family. But he is the one who makes the final decision and he trusts me to carry it out.
I'm the enforcer. twisted
I happen to like my traditional role as a stay at home mom and wife. It works for my family and we've all benefited from it. We don't have alot of material things that alot of families with two working parents have but we manage to make due with what we do have.
But, you need to remember, anyone under authority chaffs at times. Bosses are in positions of authority over us. Even you. It would do you well to remember how it feels to be in a subservient position and that sometime sit's difficult to adjust to.
Not having proper understanding could very well lead you to think that you have far more rights over your woman than is fair and proper.
I could see what he was talking about but, his long term involvment with S&M has twisted his views of whats acceptable behavior between a man and a woman. He is more into control for the sake of it than in trying to maintain a well balanced, respectful relationship.
No doubt he would love a woman. But it would take alot on his part to ensure that it didn't turn abusive in the longrun.
 Irahatam · Thu May 22, 2008 @ 06:26am · 0 Comments |
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