Irahatam
I never try to make my physical or mental issues an excuse. When I feel good, I get up and do something. The one thing I do is if I can't be physical as much as I'd like, at least I can say positive things to help encourage others. It doesn't always work as I get depressed over how hard it is for me to function physically. A little cry time or temper flare and I'm back to normal again and trying to keep my husband and kids going.
I like to think that as time goes on I've made adjustments to better my attitude. I had serious temper issues as a teen and young adult that causes me great distress to remember the times I've blown up. Granted I don't physically abuse others or call others names to hurt them (barring arguments and fights with my husband in private when we were younger
mrgreen yeah, we can both laugh at that times now), but I was horrible at breaking things and hurling things across the room...usually dishes.
twisted I think I've gotten better at being more tolerant and understanding, rather than jumping the gun and assuming things.
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But see that's the point, you evolved...so many people, as we've seen even in this thread, just want to make excuses and toil in twisted logic rather than take needed positive steps. I don't want to say it's pathetic, but it's quite disheartening. And folks like this wonder why they don't get sympathy? You had deep seeded challenges as many of us had, and have gone a long way to fix them.
Today...where's the patience, empathy, caring? Geezus...look at the scary ignorant anti Mexican, homophobic, sexist, and anti Muslim/Middle Eastern views we see for example.
Irahatam
I see posts on here and wonder like you do. I see a lot of young people who seem to have lost all hope and it worry's me. I have a soft spot for teens because so many of them (I remember my days as a teen too) seem not sure of which way to go. They have more access to things than any generation before, yet so many are apathetic or violent, or both.
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Yep...these kids cutting themselves or talking how much they wanna shoot up their school should see what Ive seen in my research; poverty and inhumane situations in Africa and worldwide that would leave them scarred for life. Not...to invalidate people's situations of course...its a case by case basis. But these young people think the world is crashing down around them, when I KNOW there's people on Gaia whove been through unimaginable horror and pain and are here in the now...and are doing quite well.
Irahatam
I use to think that most people wanted to be left alone to live their life in peace. But I'm not so sure anymore about that. Even the people I come into contact with when I'm uptown are becoming more agitated and outspoken about their dissatisfaction with petty things. A cashier making a mistake is hardly any reason to throw ones groceries in the floor. My son sees this behavior all the time where he works and this is not the worst thing to happen there. They actually had to clean feces off the floor and food items on the chip aisle.
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Yeah patience is out the window these days, and its scary. Man...when I have kids, Im so hoping they are of the mindful patient kind...the way you and I have seen how these parents are you run into at, say walmart or elsewhere...its really sad. And not even just poor folks,
but just the plastic nature of a lot of parent's way of dealing with kids.
Irahatam
My son comes home burnt out but glad to be home. I taught my kids to love music and draw. Two things I'm proud to say they still enjoy doing. Home and ones immediate family should be a haven from the outside world. Not a place one hates to have to go.
I don't make new years resolutions, but I too hope that the next year will bring good things instead of bad. But then knowing what this world is facing Pocky, we still have a ways to go before things get better.
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You sound like an amazing parent! I would SO be indoctrinating my kids in the ways of
sillyness, creativity, art, music, hugs, different cultures(and Muppets!)
Well I like to think for the lovers and dreamers, twenty ten will bring to fruition things we've worked hard for and yearned for...for people stuck in old destructive ways, i wish them the best of luck as well to recover and wake the heck up.
I have a worry that society and the world will be hit with a darkness we haven't quite been used to in the modern times, and I think it's up to people to uphold love, laughter, sillyness, creativity, community and tolerence to wade through it.
