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Alrighty then time to follow up on my recent journey:

-Graduated High School
-Working

Pretty much my life as of now.
High school was fine as I had good company but scheduling was s**t and I couldn't get what classes I wanted and thus suffered for it. I had alot of regrets during my last few years in school and now wondered what would've been if I had my way then.

Too late for that I guess.

A mother who was not ready for a child and clearly stuck in the past and blames her parents for "convincing" her to drop out of high school, who also blames her last 3 "husbands" (that I know of) for all her problems, blames her kids for her not being able to find a rich man, believes that a man should do everything and a woman doesnt have to do anything.

I attempted several attempts to help her throughout my life and was only brought down with her:

- If you dont help her, she gets angry
- If you do help her, she gets angry for not doing it exactly her way
- if you ignore her she will call for you to do things she is not willing to get up to do
- If you attempt to tell her how she acts then she will threaten to call the police (she's done it before) and kick you out or send you off to juvie
- If you try to bring this to a social worker then she will change her tone and act nice and give them her sob story about how hard it is to be a single mother
- If by chance the Social worker agrees with the child then she will immediately change social workers.

No matter how hard I try to "help" her, she always complains about how unappreciated she is. Funny, I always say the same thing when I try to help her.

Every night she calls me out of my room to get something or to complain about something. I keep telling her dont do things you dont have to but she continues doing it anyway. Like cooking and I know what you're thinking: "But cooking is important and what a parent should do" and I agree. Cooking is fine but alot of what she cooks is enough to feed a few families and she says it's "for the week" but next night she cooks some more.

I tell her that she should become a cook and she replies "I dont like cooking for other people" and I reply "I dont like you cooking for me". When the week ends and food is left spoiled she gets really mad and complains about how much work she put into it and it goes to waste but 3 kids who often eat out dont really eat much at home.

Worst of all our family is living off of Food Stamps. I personally find this pathetic but my mother loves it and takes advantage of it. For most families, food stamps are a god send to feed their otherwise starving families. For my family, it is only proof of a person who takes more than they can handle. Nothing describes this more than my mother.

She's a hoarder. She's kept dresses and gowns from over the years and as long as I can remember. Her room is full of clothes that she isnt willing to donate or throw away. Our house is full of clothes that we dont wear anymore. I attempted to throw away old clothes and shoes once and she screamed at me saying "We could give this to our cousins" and then she bags em up and it would sit there for years on end.

My Mother is distrusting, dishonest, and all around bad person. From even when I was a young boy my mother always told me to lie when I can and never trust anyone. I did the opposite but whenever my younger brothers lie to her or get in trouble she always screams out "Why would you do something like that?" then she'd call me out to scold them but they're much too old for that. "What's the point?" I once said. She got even angrier and said "You're the older brother, you're suppose to teach them"

I didnt reply because I knew she'd only get angrier but the real reason I didnt say anymore is because this problem has gone on since forever. Whenever I told them one thing, she told them another.

*sigh*

I guess I'll leave the subject of my mother alone for now. I'm tired and about to go to work.