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Alright, its like this, I met this girl in an RP thing back in my sophomore year in high school and we had become good friends overtime and eventually became penpals, of course we lived in different states too. I really started to like her at one point the more we wrote, IMed and RPed and well wanted something with her. A couple years later she tells me she's engaged (we were 17 at the time) and for a while we fought and I tried to push her away from me. Eventually she called me and we worked it out or at least I thought that was the case until one day we started fighting on and off. Things were said, exchanges were made, the letters she sent me during our penpal period were sent back to her as they were. Until one day I noticed we started fighting less and less as time went on and spent more time getting to know each other a little more.

Eventually I moved on to New Mexico from California and wanted to go back to college again, so she showed me this college in her state (oklahoma) and I decided I would come and check it out and maybe go to community college down there. We had our battles on and off again and we both grew nervous around each other, but I think since our talks we grew warmer again. Then came the time I moved down, got my apartment and things were going great right? I got a job in my first week here and am still working to get back to school and patch things up with her for the years of crap I put her through. Eventually I get a girlfriend and most of my free time goes to her. At one time I disappeared for a couple weeks to take care of my girlfriend while her knee was hurt and she was sick. Soon after I got sick so I wasn't at my apartment a whole lot.

Heres where it all begins: Me and my girl come to my house when I notice a message from my friend on my answering machine telling me to call her back. I do and ask what she needs, its usually to say hi or something unimportant which I usually don't mind, if it wasn't almost every ferkin' day, so we start to talk a little then we end up fighting, I forget about what but after a while her phone cut out and she hung up. I call her back and ask her "why did you do that?" she replies "Ever since you got your new girlfriend, you've treated me like I don't exist. I feel like you're avoiding me, why am I fighting for a friendship when you're not gonna do your part?"

Me: "I thought we worked this out Lauren. It didn't need to be saved because I thought we did."

More fighting ensued after that and then it finally ends:

Me: "Stop, you're being narrow minded, but then again you always were narrow minded."

Lauren: "Well you've always been an a*****e!"

After that she hung up and I called her again to try and straighten things out but her friend picked up and said, "She feels like you don't want to be her friend anymore, so calm down, call her back tomorrow."
Little did I know that wasn't happening, for the next afternoon I came to find a necklace I had given to her, a book she and I had been writing together and another letter from her, the necklace was wrapped in a black back and tied, I went inside and read the letter and the writing she had left in our book that read: "Stop living in a fantasy world. You need to realize you lost one of the best friends you'll ever have. Ever since you got your new job and girlfriend, you've treated me like I don't exist. I'm glad I chose the man I'm with and not you, because if I were to marry you I'd be with a boy and not a man. May life treat you as you've treated me..."
I called her forgetting she was at work, despite the fact that she kept hanging up on me anyway, so eventually I just gave up and decided to call her later, fuming, but wanting to fix things, so I took my girlfriend out for dinner and came home, to call Lauren again and her fiance' picks up and says "I don't appreciate you harassing her...while I don't know the whole story behind the arguement, leave her alone." and this was without even hearing what I had to say, but then she picks up and says "What do you want since you want to talk to me so bad."

Me: "We need to talk."

Lauren: "No we don't because I'm tired of your bullshit."

Me: "No we do, we need to work this out."

Lauren: "No we're not gonna, I'm sick of you doing this to me."

She then hangs up and then calls me back like 5 minutes later starting to talk, by then I'm broken down.

Lauren: "I just wanted to know something, did you get the stuff we left you?"

It was then I realized more than one person must've been involved.

Me: "Yeah and I felt insulted..." I was interrupted by her.

Lauren: "Well I'm glad you did. Anyway things are gonna change in a couple weeks, I'm getting happily married so don't call me."

So I go stay with my girlfriend and throughout the weekend talk to various people about my situation all the while Lauren leaving 3-6 messages on my answering machine, leaving voicemails on my cell and the like. A couple days later I write her a letter telling her how I felt and what I never got to tell her and left her the necklace I gave her, she apparently gets threatened by a harmless letter with no threats and a necklace so much so that she calls the police, luckily nothing happened. So then she messages me saying "Stop associating with me or anyone who knows me, we have nothing more to say to each other, don't contact me again or else I'll call the police."

But again, she texts me and calls me under a private number, so when I text her asking her about it she says: "Well it wasn't me, stop contacting me you've threatened me enough, I'll call the police again if you don't stop."

I say: "Well congrats Lauren...you ended a 6 year friendship over absolutely, I hope you're happy."

I don't talk to her for days after that and one day she calls me at my house asking me to come meet her somewhere. I refuse of course, but Lauren is stubborn and persistant. I eventually agree and go outside, but I don't even look her in the face. She comments:

"Not even gonna face me?"
Me: "No"

Eventually she starts asking how my life is going, but I remain silent cept for maybe one or two words, she starts to circle me to look me in the face, but noticing this I kept turning myself away, eventually she says:
"Dammit Jason, look at me."
"No Lauren...not after what you did."
She goes on to say how she was justified in doing it after all the things I had said and done years ago when we were fighting had been haunting her. I had done and said a lot of horrible things, but she's said things just as bad if not worse to me and that she felt threatened by the letter and the necklace on her doorstep and saying how scared she was. I simply said:
"You did far worse to me than what I could to you, because I have a heart."

Eventually I get up and go inside my house. Earlier in the week she texts me about her wedding, whether accidental or intentional I have no ******** clue, but eventually she starts saying how happy she's going to be, how much fun she'll have on her honeymoon, how her husband makes her so happy, etc. She's rubbed that in my face for years and does a damn good job of making herself look stupid.

Eventually she texts me the next day saying she's getting finished with preparations and how she wants to be friends but how things are too tense now with her wedding being the next day, how things are so different now, how she feels unsafe around me despite, I've done nothing to her through all this bullshit. The next morning she calls me telling me she's getting her hair done, evidently going to her wedding, how she'll be gone for a week and how she'll see me then. She texted me twice today and called my cell once.

But anyway, in a nutshell thats the whole situation with this girl. I've gotten varying opinions about this and I really see nothing I did wrong, despite the calling thing and the past crap, but I've sort of gotten over some of the things she's said, yet she can't do that for me?

This girl was one of my best friends and yet she ends a friendship over something so small. I just wonder, if everything is over why do I feel like crying?

By the way, we're both 21, and this crap still happened.

Oh and to add insult to more insults, she texted and called me before and after she was married for nearly a week straight.